What do I do? Advice please.

[broken4886]

So, my girlfriend officially broke up with me on Sunday. But prior to that we had been separated for a week. She wanted space and I gave it to her and then Sunday she decided she didn’t want to be with me anymore.

I am so devastated. I thought she was forever. I’m living in my parents basement right now and they want to help me get everything I need to get into my own place again. But all of this seems to be happening really fast. My sister owns two houses and offered her house that she rents out to me if I pay the mortgage. But what if my gf changes her mind? What if she wants me to come home and then everyone will be mad at me for wasting their time.

My gf (or ex I guess) its so hard for me to say ex....was my best friend. But also battles depression and anxiety. She is beginning to realize things that happened to her as a child and having a hard time. She said she just wasn’t happy anymore but what if she just made a hasty decision? I don’t want to be naive. I’m so confused. What should I do?

[broken4886]

I have to add that she has not yet tried to get back together. I just keep thinking what if she does...it’s only been a few days.

[Hidden in reply to broken4886]

I would just ask her what her intentions are and then go from there...

[broken4886 in reply to Hidden]

Well she isn’t talking to me. And she said she doesn’t want to be with me anymore and that she didn’t want me to come back. That she wants to be on her own and focus on herself. And I do want what’s best for her. I want her to be happy. I was just hoping somehow there might still be a place for me.

[Hidden in reply to broken4886]

Unfortunately for you, it doesn’t sound like that’s possible. You can do the same thing and work on yourself during this time to help you take your mind off her. Keep positive and know that this breakup is a part of your journey and you will come out of it stronger than ever!

[teemo1]

So sorry you're going through this. I know what it's like. Here is a good article:

markmanson.net/how-to-let-go

[broken4886]

Thank you so much everyone. This forum has helped me and you all are helping me more than you’ll ever know.

[gogogirl]

You have a family, a place to live, a job- all of those are real positives, and mostly you have YOU.

[Anxiety5]

Let her go. Don’t put your life on hold waiting for her to come back.

Build yourself back up and concentrate on being the “you” you can be...go hiking, biking, go to museums, take a class or three! Read books you have never read before, volunteer....

Do all these things so when Miss Right comes along you can be a whole, warm hearted and caring person.

[Jimdubu]

I am sorry you are going through this, it is never easy when a relationship comes to an end. The thing to realize is that it is a loss, and like any loss we need to grieve that loss. They're are five phases of grieving we need to go through. You are currently in the first. 1. Denial 2. Anger 3. Bargaining 4. Depression 5. Acceptance. If you feel like you are in crisis you can call the Crisis Text Line at 741741 I don't know if you see anyone professionally, but it might help. Prayers my Friend

[Malumaf]

I am so sorry that this is happening to you, and I understand, you think what if they want me back, and rn you’re at a place you’d go back in a heartbeat, but something you have to think to yourself is, if she wants you back, should you get back together? And if so should you really just up and move back in with her or should you take it slow and let it grow back naturally, right now honestly I think it’d be best if you find yourself and who you are without her, which I know hurts so bad I understand, but you gotta put yourself first