Feeling lonely and wishing I had a partner

[luckypuppy]

I am feeling so lonely and would really like to talk to someone who understands the feeling. Specifically about being single and being scared of not finding love.

I absolutely hate sleeping alone, not having someone to share good and bad parts of my day with, someone to just watch tv with and cuddle. I so badly want to find my person, and everyone in my life makes me feel like I’m so wrong for feeling the way I do.

I always get the “u have to love urself before someone else can love u”, “keep putting yourself out there but don’t go into it with the intention of finding your person as it’s too high of expectations”, “u need to be ok to be alone so ur partner is adding to ur life not becoming it”.

I understand all these sentiments and it’s not like I think they’re all insanely wrong, but I feel like I’ll never fully be happy alone I’m very much a person who values family and love and I don’t want to casually date. I’m almost 30 I know what I want and I don’t understand why I can’t be honest that that’s what I want. And I don’t know how to stop worrying about being alone now that I’ve been alone for almost a year.

[Raptorvelo]

Hey. I think it's normal for some people to need a partner. Having company, sharing experiences, just knowing someone is there. We are social creatures at the end of the day.Lonliness is an awful feeling, one I'm acquainted to, and fear being alone for the rest of my life. I dont have any advice, because these things just happen, or I'm told they do, but know you aren't alone in being alone...probably no solice in that.

[Lefty_Epee]

My advice is to go out there and look for love. A lot of people have been alone for a while now and want/need that attention. However, be cautious. Be yourself, but don't reveal everything at once. Be vulnerable, but not defenseless. It's a process that is going to take time, but it's worth the effort. Good luck!