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I feel so lonely, tired and depressed.

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I feel so lonely, tired and depressed.

Feeling like my life has lost its meaning, because everyone always let me down. And I'm starting to blame myself.

Also my deadlines are burning, but I can’t do anything. Feeling so bad that there is no strength to get out of the chair. It makes me very nervous, but at the same time I feel like I don't care. I don’t know how to explain it. I just can't take it anymore.

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Poodie

Hi isthere.

I get how you feel. I was there also. I wasn’t and could not move to do anything. You are entitled to rest but soon try to take one small step to do something for yourself. Any small thing you have not been able to do. Then add something each day. Try hard to do this. Depression is an awful and sometimes relentless disease.

People on here want to help. So don’t give up. Write in again and try to connect with others. I know it is hard but do one thing. Hang in there. You do have people on this site and many feel the way you do now. The virus has made people worse in some cases

Are you on any meds? Do you have a therapist ? They can both help a great deal. Are you able to make yourself take a walk outside ?

All this stuff helped me and I hope you can also find some way to feel better.

You are not alone here.

❤️

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isthereasweeterplace in reply to Poodie

Thank you for support. I’m glad to get feedback!

Unfortunately, I don’t have a therapist.

I live with my family. And they don’t understand that I need help. I find it difficult to find a therapist myself (and it’s also very expensive for me, because I don’t work - only study).

I know that health care is important, but I’m confused in this situation.

I guess I have to convince my mom about therapist, but I also don’t want my family to think that something is wrong with me (because I guess I have some other problems besides depression - maybe something similar to OCD)...

So it makes me feel even worse :(

Thank you again for your reply! 🙏🏼

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Poodie in reply to isthereasweeterplace

Hi Isthere.

Yes, do try to talk to your parents. May I ask how old are you? Explain that you want to feel better and think it best that you try therapy. Hopefully, they will understand. It is just not worth it to be unhappy. Looking after yourself while you are young is a good idea. Be proactive.

You can find out what kind of insurance you have. You can look up mental health professionals on line. Make sure they take your insurance. It is often listed on their web site or call their office to find out. Find out if they are taking new clients.

Look under clinical Social Workers with LCSW after their name. Read about them and their reviews. Likewise for license clinical Psychologists or licensed clinical Counselors. Sometimes your insurance co. will refer you to someone. They are all trained in doing therapy. .

You may want to first find a psychiatrist to evaluate you but all clinical professionals can do that too. You will need a psychiatrist (M D ) if you eventually go on meds. They do charge more but If you do have a dual diagnosis, you may want to get a psychiatrist who specializes in medication management. You should be able to look on line for them also. Some professional specialize in certain disorders such as depression or OCD.

If you are in college, they may have a counselor you can see and perhaps they can refer you to someone. Or your family Dr. may be able to refer you to someone he or she is familiar with or to a few people you can choose from. Your parents may be more amenable if you get a referral from your family Dr.

Make sure you like the person and find it easy to talk to them. Get someone who has years of experience and someone who you think will be compassionate, understanding , and kind. Always check them out yourself also. Read what they have written on their web site.

I know it may sound like a daunting task finding someone, but take one thing at a time and go from there. Don’t get yourself overwhelmed. If you can write a paper, you can do this. Take notes. Sometimes finding the right therapist is luck, however you can determine a lot just reading about them on line.

I hope that helps. Best wishes . Keep posting. There are nice people on here who want to help you. You are not alone here.

❤️

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isthereasweeterplace in reply to Poodie

Hello, Poodie!

You asked how old I am - I am 20 y. o.

Thank you for the advice, you're right. I’ll try to follow it. Hope it works.

❤️

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Straight in reply to isthereasweeterplace

Hey no matter what get help. Reach out to someone. Be frank and sincere. Sometimes family may not want to accept your current condition but tell them. Turn to someone else even your regular Doctor if need be but please don’t be afraid or ashamed to tell someone what’s going on.

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isthereasweeterplace in reply to Straight

Thank you for support! 🙏🏼

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Arniestal in reply to isthereasweeterplace

I would say try to get some help. Due to the virus it seems nothing else is being taken notice of. I have had ocd almost all my life not serious till I was mid 20s.61 now, have depression. The ocd took a back seat for a while as I was deeply grieving but now has reared its ugly head again. These things are exhausting and very often we don't sleep great either. I would say to you yo he kind to yourself, do what you want to do. Try to get help because I didn't and wonder if that's why it stays with me. Best of luck.

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isthereasweeterplace in reply to Arniestal

Thank you! 🙏🏼

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Sostakovic

It sounds like terrible boredom, to me. You are very dissatisfied with you life at the moment. Before you go to a therapist, try to change routine of your day. I am not going to suggest exercising more , it can be boring, but it is important to do something physically, to get your body moving. The more the better. Simply get out of your head (and thoughts). Walk, run, or clean the house thoroughly. Just move ! Before trying any medications (try to avoid them) use a supplement COQ10. It boost the energy level.

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isthereasweeterplace in reply to Sostakovic

Thank you for the good advice! :)

I’ll try to follow it.

in reply to isthereasweeterplace

Oh thanks that's nice. I'm not a doctor and I hope you get feeling better soon!

When this is over or even sooner, you might want to talk to a doctor or psychologist or trained counselor. It sounds serious. I feel sorry you feel so depressed. Hang in there. It will pass especially with help 😊

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isthereasweeterplace in reply to

Thank you for support! 😊

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CCPM

I am so sorry to hear that you are feeling that way. Yes, I get it. I understand the intensity of the feelings and the confusion around how to move forward. Of course, you are the expert on what will "speak" to you most, but I thought it might be useful to identify some free options that are available. (See below.) I have found free options to be extremely useful. If one thing doesn't work, another might just be the right fit for you. Wishing you the best.

Greatist--80 Awesome Mental Health Resources When You Can't Afford a Therapist: greatist.com/grow/resources...

UpLift Free App from Human Givens: uplift.humangivens.com/desk...

Free Depression Treatment Program from Uncommon Knowledge: clinical-depression.co.uk/d...

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isthereasweeterplace in reply to CCPM

You really helped me! Already downloaded one app 😊

Thank you for support!

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CCPM

You are kind to let me know. :) Glad to hear that something appealed to you. You really are the expert on you. As you notice what works, you can build a toolkit for yourself. Here's something I just found: It's a video that shows a self-help tool similar to EMDR, but fast and free. By stroking your arms and moving your eyes from side to side, it may be possible to remove the painful feelings from a memory without having to talk about the memory. (Again, different things work for different people. Good luck building your toolkit.)

youtube.com/watch?v=09IDxrX...

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isthereasweeterplace in reply to CCPM

Thank you! I’ll try it. 😉

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KrierandRosie

Do not rely on others. Rely on yourself. People are in their own lives.

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