Stuck

[BrownEyesBlue]

I’m having a really bad day. My ex, who is my ex for a reason and no, I don’t want to get back with him, is in a new relationship and moved in with someone else. I know I shouldn’t care but I’m really hurt..... and angry. With the situation with the other guy who used me and this, I feel foolish and oh so heart broken. I’ve been up only 3 hours and I’ve cried three times since. And I know I’m gonna cry more.

I feel so “stuck”. I don’t know how to fully let go and move on.

My thoughts are very dark and I feel so low; like I’m going to be alone forever. I have so many regrets. And right now I don’t want to go on.

[BrownEyesBlue]

I somehow feel I’m to blame for everything that went wrong. I should have done this; I could have been better.... maybe it was my fault.

I know the difference but I can’t help but feel that way.

[BrownEyesBlue]

It is. I’ve always said it’s better to let it out than bottle it all up. I have issues with letting go. I struggle with it a lot.

[BrainIsFull]

I am sorry that you are having a hard time.💚 I would say that you should cry all day if you want to. (Of course you want to stop crying at some point).

Try to be gentle with yourself. When I am feeling bad, I sometimes remember to try to treat myself like I would treat anyone else who came to me feeling like I do. The idea is to get to the point of self compassion which can come but needs to be practiced.

💚

[Midori]

You are grieving the loss of your relationship. In some ways it can be worse than a bereavement, especially if the person is still around the same areas you frequent.

Let yourself grieve, indulge yourself, it will get easier over time, there is no 'It's week 3, I should be over this part and on to the next'; it doesn't work like that.

Grief is an individual thing and everyone does it differently.

Try not to lock yourself away, get out of the house, even if you don't feel like it. just seeing that the world is still turning, bees are buzzing, birds are flying, flowers are blooming. Take a book and go to a park to read, or take a sketchbook and draw, you may find that friends and aquaintances will say hi, and chat. Try to take an interest in others, all these things will help.

Antidepressants from your doctor might also help in the short term.

Cheers, Midori