I have to go to a bday party. Having anxiety over it. I had to be there an hr ago. My stomach is turning I’m freaking out being around so many people and people I haven’t seen in mths. I’ve gained so much weight since the last time I’ve seen them. Don’t feel comfortable!!!
I really don’t want to go
Do you absolutely have to go? If not, then forgive yourself and stay home. What's the point in going if you'll be miserable there? There will be more b-day parties in the future you can go to when you're feeling better.
I feel like I do. I’ve cancelled every plans I’ve had w her. It’s my friend’s mom bday and she’s leaving back to her country...
It's your call. I'm not telling you what to do. I see why you feel obligated, but if you truly feel sick right now, what else can you do?
I completely under stand what you're going through. When going out with people I'm supposed to or whom I do love is terrifying. I don't know how old you are or how long you have been having these symptoms, but I definitely think you're right to try to go. I canceled so many plans and made excuses that I eventually stopped getting invited. Whatever you do it's going to be hard. dammed if you do dammed if you don't. I am so sorry you're feeling this way, and honestly if current me could tell past me to go I really don't know how it would have turned out either. I'm sorry I can't be helpful but that's my feelings. Whatever you decide to do do not beat yourself up. You are dealing with life with a serious illness you are doing good. Be nice to yourself
"Do what you fear and the death of fear is assured." - Norman Vincent Peele 'The Power of Positive Thinking'.
And you'll feel a euphoric sense of achievement if you do.
I hear you. We all change with life. Gain, lose weight. Wrinkles, less hair, none of us can escape. All we can do is be the best we can be and if that isn't good enough for people around us, they are fools. We are all just human beings and we should not be judged by our appearance. We should be nice to one another, we should all care about one another. If you haven't been out in a while and want to go, you should go 
I did go.. stayed a couple of hours... when i got home hubby was giving me attitude... he even got mad bc I didn’t cook. I ate at the party... he should have went. Now im getting ignored and he’s doing this to my son also
Im in my 40’s.. been battling with this since childhood
sorry you already answered but I didn't see that you went because I didn't scroll down.Relationships are an entirely new source of confusion and trauma! But congrats on facing your phobia and fears and showing up!!! Did you have fun? That's my new ?. Also, does your hubby routinely guilt trip and emotionally manipulate you? Or does he usually support you and Make you laugh? Or somewhere in between?
Did you go? is it the actual prospect of showing up, or how badly you didn't want to go that sent you into a tailspin? With a party that big, it's easy to make up any old excuse or white lie, right? unless it's close family. Half the people who RSVP don't show up anyway, right? Will anyway really miss you? Obviously the bigger problem is social anxiety and how to combat it! You don't want to be afraid to face friends and family for any reason, obviously.
Did you go?
Things don’t always go as we want... 😉🤔
i want help
I want to go home
I don’t want
I just want to be alright
