Struggling with people at my work

[lukas01]

So yesterday at work I made a mistake as I looked to my left I see two people staring at me and laughing. I have memory problems and struggle with anxiety I’m feeling a bit down about it because I don’t want people to laugh and mock me because of my difficulties. What should I do ?

[Autisticframework]

Get some support, someone that will help you with your work. Ask is all you can do or do your work very carefully and slowly. Sorry, you didn't say what you do. See, if online training helps, even

[lukas01 in reply to Autisticframework]

The thing is I work through agency so I don’t think they will do that. My partner I work with does most things but I do have difficulties which is making me very unhappy because I want to do well

[TangledUpIn]

Ugh so high school to stare at you and laugh. I struggle with the similar things as you and work can be a difficult place.

[lukas01 in reply to TangledUpIn]

Absolutely

[Hidden]

If you make some errors, every now and them, forget about it, we all make errors, we learn from our mastakes. If some people laugh at the error, I would just shrug your shoulders, you are there to do your work and not be distracted by people who are easily distracted and should also be working

BOB

[TyrSwimmer_Sac]

I agree with Borderriever. Keep your head up. Be proud you are trying and doing your best. Keep doing it with confidence that you are giving it your best. People are complex and have issues they would never speak and perhaps the laughing has nothing to do with you. Still they are laughing about you then it speaks volumes of who they are. While not reflecting about who you are. You are working to achieve better and that says a lot of your character Is there room for improvement yeah but everyone does. That makes you human and a person to be around to work with. Continue with your best and practice what you do with all the strength and confidence I hope I can send you with. In the scheme of things I seek co-workers that try rather than do nothing at all but stand around. Your heart and courage will get you through the anxiety too. There are mental exercises you can do to manage anxiety. I've been through tremendous Stress and Panic Attacks. "When you're going through hell keep going" ~Winston Churchill See if there is anyone you can seek support from, if not then support is here for certain. Feel free to chat me up any time.

[lukas01 in reply to TyrSwimmer_Sac]

Thank you very much I will keep on trying my best to move forward

[TyrSwimmer_Sac in reply to lukas01]

Even so know that you've got support here (including me) to get you through to the other side. Plus any other hurdles you come across.

[hypercat54]

Hi there are always people who will laugh or pour scorn on others. At my last job before I retired a couple of the youngsters thought it was funny when I couldn't remember as well as they did. Well my memory was good when I was their age too and I thought they will find out for themselves one day.

One of then was a right snotty cow and when we had to swap desks made a big thing out of it and scrubbed and dubbed it saying how dirty it was. I said in a loud voice that it wasn't as dirty as hers and made sure I scrubbed it for longer and making tutting noises!

[Chopper21]

I’m sorry that happened. I do agree with the previous posts. You’re human and we all make mistakes. I would focus on my job and doing the best I can. I’m sure they make too. All the time. You are probably not seeing it cause you’re not focused on that. Please be kind to yourself.

[lukas01 in reply to Chopper21]

Thank you

[Broken1971]

There are jerks everywhere. I had this happen at a place I used to work. These people would laugh at me behind my back and shoot rubberbands at me. It really hurts. Hang in there. It's so painful but it is not you, it is them.

[lukas01 in reply to Broken1971]

Thank you I will try

[Nonna60]

Hi lukas01....unfortunately, bullies come in all ages. Typically, it empowers them when a good worker makes any kind of mistake, as we all do because we are human. Please do not let them get you down. People like that are likely experiencing some sort of discontent in their own lives, and I believe they want to bring you down to their unhappy and unfulfilled level. Don't let them distract you. It's their unhealthy and cruel issue to deal with. Hold your head high, I am sure you are doing a great job! Try to develop a good rapport with your supervisor/manager...communicate often with that person. Let us know how you are coming along....👍

[lukas01 in reply to Nonna60]

Thank you I will try my best to keep my head up and do my best

[Jay2O]

I guess it`s a case of being misunderstood Lukas. This or the two you mentioned are simply immature individuals who believe themselves perfect. I have had this done to me over the years. Quite often it is just silly workplace banter and boredom on their part. I shrug it off more these days. I too can have memory problems at times and like you can be a touch sensitive. It means you CARE. You can only but try and do the best you can do and ask for the help of those less insensitive to guide you at times when you need some help. It is great that you want to do well at something. Do realize that NO-ONE is perfect in this world and when we do make a mistake we usually learn from it. I`ve learnt from many a mistake. Just be yourself and be proud x

[lukas01 in reply to Jay2O]

Thank you I will try my best

[Nonna60]

It's so hard, I know. Lived through all of that in one form or another. Positivity counters their negativity. It takes time.

[Gentlespirit]

Youare in a difficult situation but theres hope and a solution at least in part.Do you have some flexibility in moving around or being in an area where you can do your work alone or apart from others?

Developing strategies can be challenging and I understand what your going through. Be patient and don't berate yourself for how others treat you. Ignorance is a lack of knowledge and maybe neither one understanding of what you have to deal with on a daily basis.

In the meantime be patient and kind. Please do not punish yourself because you didn't do anything wrong deliberately and everyone makes mistakes. Please be gentle with yourself and things.

There are books on anxiety depression perfectionism and other sites that can help you to become more aware internally and externally and cognitively and emotionally.

Do what you can and ask questions silently or when needed. Listen. Search. Evaluate. Explore. Challenge. Slow down. Regulate. Step back . Rest. Rest is very important. For physical mental and emotional health. It's ok to alternate speeds if you're able to.

What do you need? Ask yourself.

It's ok to feel even intensely or not at all and I know statistics can be unnerving but your not a statistic . Your more than a label. Get to know yourself better.

I care and this is not a speed race.

Monitor manage and be kind patient gentle and understanding.

[Gentlespirit]

Its a job. It's not your entire life. Society may evaluate you by the job you do and as individuals I guess thats done to a certain degree too but your more than just your occupation. Theres heart mind body and soul too. I believe that you have the ability to find your way but I understand how some barriers can keep you from moving forward.

Knowledge and understanding helps. I'm not going to lie because things don't always work out but try notto give up. I know your trying. Your not lazy.

Be kind to yourself.

[lukas01 in reply to Gentlespirit]

Thank you very much I will have a read on the book hopefully it can help me move forward and understand why I’m feeling like this and what I should do in order to move forward and live a happy comfortable life.

[lifted]

So sorry this is happening , people can be so cruel, in this crazy world were slowing coming out of the Pandemic.which has had an effect on nearly everyone .and then to read this really upset me .You hold your head high, your better than them , I agree with all these posts and please keep in touch and keep posting you've got this !! Take care

[lukas01 in reply to lifted]

Thank you I’ll do my best

[Bigbrighteyes96]

Everyone makes mistakes so don't give yourself a hard time or let anyone else do it. Have a word with the people and tell them how it makes you feel. They sound like jerks.

My boss kept showing me how to do stuff last week and saying so they didn't have to do everything - making me feel like they think I am lazy and don't do enough. Maybe they did not mean it like that, but its not the first time. I haven't had the chance to speak to them yet.