Depression

[Aleezay]

Hi,

I don't know how to explain. But I feel alone, I miss my family alot. But my parents passed away years ago. I don't know how to cope with this situation. I just feel so alone and 💔

[TangledUpIn]

Hi Aleezay,

You said your parents passed away, how about the rest of your family? Are any of them still around?

[Aleezay in reply to TangledUpIn]

No, that's the reason I feel so alone. I miss them alot. It's been 11 years but I'm getting mentally weaker now. Sometimes I feel I am giving up. I don't know what should I do. How should I get back to life.

[TangledUpIn in reply to Aleezay]

I think I know what you mean.

[Aleezay in reply to TangledUpIn]

Thankyou ❤️

[TangledUpIn in reply to Aleezay]

I can use the same advice, how do I get back in life?

[Aleezay in reply to TangledUpIn]

Yes please

[TangledUpIn in reply to Aleezay]

If you're like me you probably shut a lot of friends out during the loneliness of missing your family. Can you reconnect with any of your friends?

Secondly, get outside. We both needs heaps of sunshine, vitamin D😊

[Aleezay in reply to TangledUpIn]

I don't really have friends. In this social media world everybody is busy in their own life. And I'm an introvert. I don't really ask for help even when I need. Sometimes I feel like I need to talk to people but than I don't really have anyone.😔 I try to go out but I don't really enjoy. I was alright for so many years but now I'm at a point where nothing is motivating me towards life.

[TangledUpIn in reply to Aleezay]

The last time I had good, understanding friends was when I was with my ex 8 yrs ago. I feel like my friends today just go through the motions - they aren't really invested. I try to be a good friend but it's not always reciprocated. In the back of my mind, I wish that I could meet some of the people on here and we could have a big health unlocked party: the ptsd sufferers over there, peeps with anxiety and depression over here and so on...🥳

[Aleezay in reply to TangledUpIn]

I completly understand what you saying.💔

[Woodhouse16 in reply to TangledUpIn]

Me too what a wonderful thought. I have my family I see once a week so am lucky in that way but the rest of the time I'm totally on my own apart from my cat. I wake every morning with dread anxiety sadness as even though I have my children (all grown up) with children and lives of their own outside of them I have nothing and no friends I feel completely empty and long for someone to to to especially someone who knows exactly how I'm feeling and what it's like. I have had these deep dark thoughts right from childhood and being nearly 64 now it's been very difficult to deal with and blagged my way through life as in my younger years especially it wasn't heard of much and certainly not spoken about you were just told to pull yourself together and get on with life with no help understanding or support.we need to reach out to one another especially as we know first hand how each of us is feeling. X

[TangledUpIn in reply to Woodhouse16]

I agree - we need to reach out to one another especially if we can relate. I can see myself in you. Take care.

[Woodhouse16 in reply to TangledUpIn]

You don't know how good that is to hear especially when you've gone through life thinking you are one on your own in the way you think. Thankyou and let us be each others support if we can.

[TangledUpIn in reply to Woodhouse16]

You got it. I will be your support. Private message if that's easier.

[Woodhouse16 in reply to TangledUpIn]

Thankyou that's encouraging thought yes.

[13ga in reply to TangledUpIn]

GEW;

what you said really resonates for me.

before HU, i thought all the people left in the world, were unkind selfish types, looking for their own gratification, at the expense of others.

then i found out - seems like most of the nice people are quietly hiding out in places like this!!!

there's a number of people i've "met" here - that i would sooooo like to meet for real. some of these people are the realest people i've known in some time.

i've even reached out to 2 - not to meet... just to talk... and this is not something i do easily. and that's an understatement - hugely.

ironically - they're just as scared as me... and we've never connected. it's even more ironic if you think about it. because we wouldn't even have had these conversations in the real world - to find out - that we'd really like to meet in the real world. so it takes a virtual world to find we'd like to meet... but then we're too scared to even talk.

if it wasn't so sad - it'd be absolutely hilarious!!!!

[Woodhouse16 in reply to 13ga]

How right you are and the way you think is exactly how I do too.

[13ga in reply to Woodhouse16]

tx so much for replying, WH...

it's nice to know others are going thru, and thinking the same way...

i had lost hope in the direction humanity's been taking... finding others like you has helped to restore some...

it's still a struggle tho - cause it seems to me that people like us - are feeling beat up, and tired. at least i know I AM. and that makes it harder to try to fix.

[Woodhouse16 in reply to 13ga]

It's always a struggle I'm afraid even if there are better days than others.I feel like the old saying of one step forward and half a dozen back is spot on.

[13ga in reply to Woodhouse16]

omg - i can name that tune in 1 note!!!

i often feel like the boulder that's gonna crush us all - has irreparably teetered over the edge.

and i'm left wondering; can i possibly run far and fast enough to escape it?

then i wonder - why do i want to escape it???

i'm also compelled to ask.... what's a better day? and how would i recognize it?

[Woodhouse16 in reply to 13ga]

How true better days happen so little can hardly remember what they are like. I feel like I'm down a deep dark hole I can see the top and daylight but is impossible to reach it and even if I make the slightest attempt I'm just pushed back down to the bottom again. I ask myself most days why I had to wake up.

[13ga in reply to Woodhouse16]

WH - you can see daylight!!!!!???????

look further down the hole - and see if you can see me!!! LOL

maybe today is a less-worse day for me... i'm not looking at the boulder at the moment!

[Woodhouse16 in reply to 13ga]

It's probably fallen down this deep dark hole and crushed me lol😂

[13ga in reply to Woodhouse16]

well that not good news for me - clearly you saw light - so i know you're above me! ah no matter... i already knew it's coming... and i don't need to see it! 😂😂😂😂😂

[Woodhouse16 in reply to 13ga]

Having another day of wondering why I had to wake up😂

[13ga in reply to Woodhouse16]

HD - you're not alone. me too.

i just had a text chat w/ my brother and younger nephew. they asked family out to dinner after his graduation.

the problem is my older nephew has chosen NOT to vaccinate. and when i explained i'm not sure i feel good about attending due to this - both of them launch into all the reasons to justify them doing - basically anything they want - because in the end - the only thing that matters to them - is what THEY want. want want want; me me me me. that's ALL that matters. frack everyone else. frack my mom. they don't care.

i'm sick and tired of being the ONLY voice of caution, and reason.

honestly - i'm hoping that boulder comes fast. i'm really getting near end of my rope with all this bullspit. comeon boulder... i could really use some everlasting peace!

clearly - i'm failing at distancing myself emotionally from the things beyond my control. and that only pisses me off more - because i'm NOT used to failing. well - maybe that's no longer true - i hate failing is probably more accurate.

...

so to both of us i say:

let go of the spit we cant control. our day is not entirely in our control. how we react to the events of the day IS.

i'm hoping you buy into that statement better than i am at the moment. but i have high hopes of convincing myself. it would help if i wasn't so fracking stubborn... i think... ?

[Woodhouse16 in reply to 13ga]

Oh well I think most of us can have a stubborn streak given certain situations ect I am a fairly easy going easy to please type of person but given the cause of any sort to be so I can be extremely stubbon and do stand up to what I think is right for me personally. I'm always the voice of caution doesn't get listened to much though 😕

[13ga in reply to Woodhouse16]

i soooooooooooooo hear you on that!!!! 😬😬😬😬

[Woodhouse16 in reply to 13ga]

As for failing I have very little confidence in myself in fact very little full stop so failing is all I set myself up to do but truly wish I wasnt like it 😣😣

[13ga in reply to Woodhouse16]

sorry for extreme delay... havn't been in best of places... nother death in family... i'm getting really tired of people dying... and worst yet - none of the ones dying are my brother..... ;-(

oh yea - i have a dark sense of humor.... but maybe you figured that out....

[Woodhouse16 in reply to 13ga]

OMG sorry to hear of another death in your family how awful for all concerned and sounds like it's had a tremendous effect on you. No need to be sorry very understandable under the circumstance.

[Hollick in reply to TangledUpIn]

Me too pls

[AnxiousCanadianChic]

I hear you. I lost both parents and a brother(he was 28) to cancer. My dad died when I was 15 but tbh it didn’t affect me as he was an ahole to me growing up. I was 18 when my brother died(my fave bro outta the 3) and that took a toll on me but I also met the love of my life that year so that helped. Sadly after 8 years together we split.

7.5 years ago I lost my best friend, my mom. I still miss her so much and I have not been ok since. After losing her I developed epilepsy and my bf now is an ahole but due to my health issues,I can’t leave him.

I am also an introvert and have a tough time making friends as I don’t really go anywhere and I don’t work. I try to take it day by day and try to list my blessings everyday, that helps. I’m on antidepressants but they don’t help, I just get through each day and hope that one day I’ll be happy again.

[Aleezay in reply to AnxiousCanadianChic]

Thankyou so much for listening me. It feels better when someone listen you. May God bless you and fill your life with happiness.

[Hollick in reply to AnxiousCanadianChic]

Antidepressants can help, its finding the right one..thx for sharing your story..

[TangledUpIn in reply to Hollick]

Hi Hollick,I know you didn't mean for it to be funny but "anxious Canadian Chic" made me smile. I certainly don't think anxiety is funny though and I struggle with anxiety daily.🙃

[Hollick in reply to TangledUpIn]

didn't mean for it to be funny? was nothing funny at all, glad you smiled, I guess?

[TangledUpIn in reply to AnxiousCanadianChic]

I realize it's hard to make friends when you don't work outside the home. I think most people meet their friends through family or work. When those channels of meeting people are closed, you are limited.

[Woodhouse16]

I know all too well how you are feeling my parents passed away many years ago and my family all have busy lives of their own with family partners ect and only see them once a week rest of the time I'm totally alone with no friends either. Life just feels so empty and without purpose .so I feel very depressed and can't shake thathe feeling no matter how hard I try. No one truly understands unless they are in the same situation do they and all you have is this feeling of emptiness. It is good to share though on here with like minded people giving you the knowledge you are not alone in your thoughts. Try to keep your chin up and please take care. X

[Aleezay in reply to Woodhouse16]

Thankyou so much for listening me. ❤️I hope one day we will be okay. I'm trying my best. I read your thoughts I understand how it feels.

[HD1960]

Call a friend,pet a dog take a walk grow a plant ride a bike.If that doesn’t help.

See your doc,

[Aleezay in reply to HD1960]

My friend is not around me.😔

[Saki-Amamiya in reply to HD1960]

I don’t think growing a plant or riding a bike is going to help deal with the loneliness of losing her parents...

[Hollick]

I lost mine too, life's never been the same..hope we both can find some peace..God bless..

[Aleezay in reply to Hollick]

Thankyou

[Aleezay]

Is there anyone who can be my friend ? So we can chat and feel relax?

[13ga]

aleezay - hi and welcome to hu! - absolutely LOVE your name!!!

aleezay - i sooooooo feel ya... but not how you might think.

i lost my dad long ago; and i just lost my step-dad at the end of jan, and my uncle 2 weeks after that.

i still have a mom; step-mom; and brother left. and they are all un-trustworthy. my step-mom and bro - are the worst of the worst. my mom is simply beyond afraid of being alone - and i can no longer trust what she says, because i'm unsure of what motivates her.

i effectively have NO FAMILY - no one. except some of them still live. in some ways this is actually worse... in others maybe better... but at the end of the day - i get where you're at.

so which is worse - literally having no one and feeling alone - or having "fake family" and feeling alone and isolated among your supposed family... well - i don't mean for this to be a competition - they both suck.

the worse part - is that i still have to endure them. and i spend 3 days a week w/ my mom. i'm slowly losing what little sanity i never had....

there's good news for you though... you can do something i don't have the time to do... you can put yourself out there, and find some new friends - and maybe even 1 or 2 really good friends - core friends.

pursue your interests... you'll find others that share those interests... that's a great way to meet people.

keep interacting here - this will help you feel less alone. you might be solo - but you're definitely NOT alone!

[TangledUpIn in reply to 13ga]

That's a nice reply 13ga.

[13ga in reply to TangledUpIn]

thank you, greeneyes!

that's very kind of you to say, and i'm appreciative that you did!