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I need to talk to someone. I feel so alone and hopeless. My husband and son both died within a short time of each other. I have tried so many things to help myself. None work. I don’t know what to do.

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Your loses seem unimaginable. I am so sorry. I am here if you want to talk.

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Thankyou so much for replying. I have tried everything I can think of....counseling/psychiatrist, antidepressants, Grief Share program, volunteer work, church involvement. reaching out to people I know trying to get out of the house and do things and on and on. But nothing works. I also have a daughter. She is very ill. I spend a great deal of time caring for her when her husband is at work. She is in tremendous pain and suffers so. It breaks my heart. There is not much I can do. I just feel so hopeless. Everyday I go to bed crying and I wake up crying. What is the use of living like this

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I'm so sorry, that's a staggering loss to try and bare. I can't even find words to say really.....the loss is so great. I hope your getting some counselling to even begin to cope with this....where do you begin when you've had such great tragedy.

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I don’t know. If it were not for my daughter who is very ill and in tremendous pain, I would end it all.

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I'm glad your here sharing....your at least able to get support here...these are kind people....many here have suffered greatly, they are very empathetic.....

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Thank you.

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I can't even imagine what that is like. So sorry for your losses. Welcome to the site. Sending you a big hug.

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I needed that hug so much. Thank you

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Thank you for receiving that hug! Please keep posting, and is it okay if we reach out to you as well?

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Yes Absolutely. I would appreciate the company. I get very lonely. Thanks again.

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Welcome to you. I’m sincerely sorry for your very sad losses,

I’m glad you found us here.

Hugs to you 🌺🌺🌺

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Thankyou for the reply and the hug. I am so glad I found all of you. I don’t really understand why I’m like this while so many othe folks are able to move forward. There really are no words to adequately describe these feelings. Thankyou for being there

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We all cope with things very differently and at a different pace, it takes as long as it takes , I just can’t imagine how awful it must feel for you ...don’t compare yourself to others or be hard on yourself...

I do hope this forum goes some way to helping you, there are good people here...

Every good wish to you xxx

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Thank you

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So sorry for your loss. I'm available if you want to have a chat.

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Dear fgsltw,

What you are experiencing is normal. You’re going through triple grief. One for the loss of your husband. One for the loss of your son. And the other, prolonged grief of taking care of your daughter that has limits. All this loss is an abundance of pain to bear.

You’re absolutely right, no matter what you’ve tried isn’t helping with your depression. Remedies won’t bring back your husband or son.

But perhaps what’s best for now is to let yourself go through the grieving process and know it’s absolutely normal. Loss hurts something awful. But in time the pain of the grief will lesson.

Years ago my mother’s 2nd husband, the love of her life walked into a men’s bathroom. He never came out alive. He died instantly from a massive heart attack. My mom was in terrible pain with the instant loss. She hurt and cried for years after that. But in time her pain lessened and she went on with her life.

So for now allow yourself to grieve. And, we on this site are here for you to lean on.

Best,

MZ

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Thankyou so much for you support. Both my husband and my son died suddenly. I certainly understand how your Mom felt.

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I’m so sorry that you’re going through this... I don’t know much of what to say to help, just please know there’s people here to support you so you don’t feel so alone... I believe you can get through this. <3 We are all here for you. No matter what.

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I wanted to see how you are today.

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Rough day yesterday. Sorry I didn’t reply. Thanks for checking on me. Don’t know what I’m going to do

How are you doing?

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I am hanging in there. Thanks for asking given what you are going through. It has to be a real helpless feeling- you never have to apologize for not replying. How are you today, and how is your daughter doing? No matter what we are here.

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I’m about the same. My daughter is having a rough time. She is such a strong person. Never complains.

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I am so sorry to hear your situation. How alone you must feel. I believe God has a purpose for every situation, no matter how difficult, and I know that he heals hearts and lives.

I have a website that I have turned to for encouragement when I have had loss in my life. My loss wasn't necessarily death, although I did lose the father of my children, after we were divorced and the kids were still small. That was difficult. This website was always a kind word and a help when I needed it and I pray it will be for you also. bit.ly/2LpMwtK

I will be praying for you!

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Thankyou so much.

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I just came across your post and I hope you have been able to find some comfort and ways to cope with the grief.

Mourning is such an individual thing. My family lost a father and grandmother within a year of each other and each of us has mourned differently. I used the book, "Through a season of Grief" (Amazon has it cheap: amzn.to/2KEQ8XP). You read one page a day for one year and it helps with the healing.

When I read your post I really felt for you because I understand that deep grief. I know it's been a month since you posted, but if you see this please let us know how you're doing.

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