Self Worth

[Shield_Of_Faith]

I've talked about this before, I don't want to be a broken record. I just struggle with my self worth. I feel I'm nothing most of the time and I feel I shouldn't deserve to have hopes or dreams. I'm not perfect. I try to Improve each and every day. I just find myself comparing myself to others who have what I dream for. Whether its small or big things of goals in life. I feel left behind or white noise or the black sheep. I know I may sound dumb but I just once again need to vent how I'm always feeling. I can't shake it. I'm trying idk how else to think. I'm Blessed by God, I'm not denying that. I just still have these feelings at times of feeling worthless.

[kenster1]

Hi doesn`t matter if you`ve brought it up before other people might provide different suggestions than might possibly help.

[Shield_Of_Faith in reply to kenster1]

Thank you I appreciate that! I get nervous posting about something over and over again of something I still struggle with. Thanks for the support!

[AnxiousSilver in reply to Shield_Of_Faith]

" I get nervous posting about something over and over again of something I still struggle with."

It's OK, I get sometimes nervous myself posting things.

& I also agree with Kenster's post above, that somebody new may have a different piece of possibly (helpful) advice.

[Shield_Of_Faith in reply to AnxiousSilver]

Thanks for the support!! 🙂

[Vonus5591]

I don’t care if I’m less intelligent etc than anyone. I’m going to live my rotten life as bad as my mental health is and I’m going to keep on with all my faults

[Vonus5591]

I don’t care if people think I’m the worst as they haven’t been through what I’ve been through. Let them think badly of me

[Weatherwoman in reply to Vonus5591]

Good for you. Wished I had learned this at an earlier age! Most people, though, are probably mostly thinking about themselves, and in their Own little world. That may sound selfish, and sad, but it is the truth! So, the Heck with what others might think, or say --It's Their stuff & Not yours. "Believe in yourself, and you make your heaven, or hell where you stand." Always liked that quote & don't remember where I heard it!

[Weatherwoman in reply to Weatherwoman]

Oh, left out a word on that quote: "Believe in yourself, and you make your Own heaven, or hell where you stand!"

[-Charlie]

Hi SoF, how ya doing today?

Can you share with me some of the reasons you feel blessed? Let’s start with the positive and work our way backwards.

I’m not a particularly religious person but don’t pass judgement on those who are. Just don’t get too preachy on me or I’ll ghost you lol. x

[Shield_Of_Faith in reply to -Charlie]

I'm kinda managing today, well God Blessed me with my health, my recovery from a few months ago from my surgery on my appendix that had to be taken out in a emergency. My family's health and well being each and everyday there is so much I could still go on.🙏I'm a Believer of God, I spread the word respectfully but I don't force my Faith on anyone. You choose not to believe that's your choice. As long it's mutual respect. All good.

I appreciate your support!

[-Charlie in reply to Shield_Of_Faith]

I was tongue-in-cheek joking about the religious comment. I’ve learned it’s an extremely triggering subject here so I keep my beliefs to myself. I was raised in Catholic schools but no longer attend a church. Enough about that but I’m genuinely happy your faith helps you. Whatever works right?

Sorry about your appendicitis surgery. I had mine removed and remember it well. Hope you’re feeling okay now.

You do have much to be grateful for and it’s important that you remember that. It always amazes me when I talk to a homeless person on the street who has a better attitude and outlook on life than I could ever have in their situation. It’s a gut-check reality moment that reminds me to stop trying to be perfect, a lifelong problem of mine, and find more peace within, accepting that I’m okay regardless of my ridiculous overthinking it all. It’s easy to get lost in the self-worth battle in your head.

You are just as deserving of dreams and happiness as the next guy. But you have to believe this for it to be so. Let go of all-or-nothing thinking, you’re enough just the way you are. You just have to build some self-confidence which will come in time. I saw you mentioned that you get out and about with your brother. That’s great. You should try to get out more. You’ll see progress and that’s the building block of confidence and worth. Set some small goals and don’t worry or be nervous around others. Most people are also stuck in their own heads about their own stuff so nobody really notices or cares anymore in social settings.

You seem like a really kind person. Your future is whatever you want to make of it and I think anyone you meet would consider themselves lucky to have you as a friend. Get busy with this thing called life. You’re too young to sit and ponder on it. The clock is ticking and time flys, regrets will eat you up later in life.

Take care of yourself. x

[Shield_Of_Faith in reply to -Charlie]

I deeply appreciate your response!

Yeah the weird thing about my appendix is that I went 4 intense days with my stomach on my right side bothering me and idk what it was honestly. Then on that 4th day I called my mother up and I asked her to bring me to the ER, I'm sitting there for so many hours waiting for results, I'm thinking they are gonna just give me antibiotics or something, the Doctor comes in the room and tells me that I have a appendicitis me and my mother looked at each other like what? They said I was lucky that my appendix didn't burst in those 4 days without me knowing. I'm not lucky, I'm Blessed.

So even though I got the surgery in time it was really scary.

But anyway I appreciate your support I try not to be to much in my head and I try to believe I deserve to have my dreams come true. It gets hard to think that or say that because my mind intensely gets a thought like I'm nothing and nobody. It's difficult.

Yeah I know my family says that people are to busy with their own lives to focus on me in public so I should not worry because of my social anxiety.

I appreciate the kind words I try to be a good person with honor and respect. I'm Not Perfect but I can always keep trying to improve.

Really thinks for the support! 😁

[AnxiousSilver]

"I just find myself comparing myself to others who have what I dream for."

Here.. I'm guilty of doing this myself (because I'm human), but I also know that comparing ourselves to others usually makes things worse.

[Shield_Of_Faith in reply to AnxiousSilver]

Yeah I know. It's hard not to compare. I shouldn't but I do.

[StudentofGod]

I absolutely relate to what you wrote and no matter what I do, overcoming negative self talk is difficult, but possible. I am convinced that speaking your dreams into existence along with lists of what the Lord says about you, even if you don't originally believe it, will manifest in your life over time. I believe I am loved by God and he has healed me of 40 years of addiction to drugs, nicotine, and alcohol. I am healed!! I am a great father! I am a nice guy who truly cares about others! I am beginning to believe these statements even though I am in process. Hope that makes sense.

[Shield_Of_Faith in reply to StudentofGod]

Wow! God Bless you! I'm happy you overcame those struggles! 🙏I hope one day I will feel fully like that, but with my many issues beating me down everyday I keep worrying about how I'm viewed in God's eyes when I feel like such a failure which then leads to my struggle with self worth. Im trying. Thank you for the support! 🙏

[worthytobeloved]

Hi - it's me again! Can I recommend an app called Soulspace? It had a lovely meditation every day, and is God-based.

[Shield_Of_Faith in reply to worthytobeloved]

I've tried different apps like that one. Didn't really help me much in the past. But I can look into that one. Thank you!

[BubblesUp]

I heard something that really helped me. I personally feel that God is so busy with wars, people dying and real crises that I’m here asking help with feeling better or my small issues. I feel I’m annoying Him. He has much more important things to worry about than my little anxiety issues-but I recently heard if it matters to me, it matters to Him and He isn’t bothered with me asking for insignificant things because He loves me that much. Hope that helps you as much as it helped me.

[Shield_Of_Faith in reply to BubblesUp]

Yeah I felt that too. But my Pastor and my Family said similar things. Nothing is to small or big for God to help you in any situation. 🙏

[BubblesUp in reply to Shield_Of_Faith]

Yeah but sometimes in the midst of anxiety it’s easier said than done. I’ve written down tools I’ve learned because in the doldrums, bad days, I can forget. This group has been a great help.

[Shield_Of_Faith in reply to BubblesUp]

Yeah I know that. It's not easy, I never said it was. I just keep praying and trying and being consistent with different things that helps me. It's a process, not an overnight success. Takes time with holding onto God and me praying but working on stuff from my end too, the best I can. 🙏

[BubblesUp in reply to Shield_Of_Faith]

Sounds like a recipe for success!

[Shield_Of_Faith in reply to BubblesUp]

🙏🙂

[Fefe09]

what exactly are you dreaming for? If it’s worldly things just know they can’t make you happy. Maybe life a while . If you have family that loves you and your health you are so very rich and blessed. Try and be content and appreciate what you do have. Try taking a mission trip over seas and see what they have, it will make you be so grateful and maybe humble for what you do have. Everyone wants to keep up with the Jones’s I may have been that way when I was younger but the older I get I’m just thankful to be able to breathe and walk and talk. Stuff can’t make you happy. They will all burn up one day. Don’t get me wrong I believe God wants us to have nice things but he doesn’t want that to be a priority. I pray you find peace and contentment through your journey in life . God bless

[Shield_Of_Faith in reply to Fefe09]

Well I have a few but I wish to be free from anxiety, have a normal life. Going to church more to worship God and not have panic attacks because of a crowded church. Not dealing with agoraphobia stuck in the house like a prison, while I see my family members go out and live their lives while I'm stuck alone at home all the time dealing with anxiety and depression and overthinking and maybe one day I hope to meet a Good Christian Woman and have a beautiful relationship, at least givin a chance at one. My social anxiety and depression does not make these things easy.

I acknowledge all the Blessings God has given me I haven't forget and I'm not trying to be greedy and say I want more.

It's just my Hope for things to still get better. Not that I love God less for not having these things. It's just my Hope in the Future. I love God, No Matter What.

🙏❤️