God I have so many projects and things to do. My apartment is a mess. I am a couple days late on a bill, I need to up my job search. I'm not even physically tired, but I would rather just sleep.
The thought of how much I have to catch up on makes me anxious. So I don't even do anything and just get more behind or I get something done and everything else falls to the wayside. Need to kick myself in gear but the list is so overwhelming. I used to be so driven.
YES!!! I know exactly how you feel. I get so overwhelmed sometimes. that I just shut down. I am learning to cope with it but God I feel your pain. I know it helps me sometimes to sit down and make a list of things that need to be done. Now you have to be careful here, if the list gets too long that can trigger anxiety as well. Just take the list and prioritize everything one it. Start a the most important one and move down the list. MAKE SURE you cross the items off as you do them so you can see the progress. At least this helps me sometimes.
I am so sorry to hear that you are overwhelmed but (and please don't take this wrong) I am kinda glad because I wanted to get one here and find someone who knows what I feel like sometimes. I sincerely hope you can get past this rough patch. Lord knows if you want to talk about it, I totally understand how you feel.
I am glad that you don't feel alone in this. I will admit it is nice to know that I am not the only one struggling. I got overwhelmed with the list thing today, but giving it a new try tomorrow. Maybe if I do it while I drink my coffee I will feel better (I am a coffee fiend). And I did get the big bad task accomplished so it was not a total waste though I definitely needed to get more done.
You can get there Breja. One task at a time. Don't beat yourself up for not getting more. Better to focus on the positive that you got the big task done. If you ever need to vent. shoot me a message. I understand the struggle.
Hi breja, whenever I get overwhelmed I go straight to bed... sometimes it gets dark in my head and I would contemplate not wanting to ever wake up or maybe if I could be swallowed up by my bed.. and just disappear... sorry I drifted off there. How about you try and do one thing, like clean your kitchen sink or one part of your house just tidy it up a bit. take one step at a time and bit by bit you'll get through! Remember focus on just that one thing.. and when youve finished that try something else.
You need to set a intention and workWith the process and overwhelming with focus take small steps being assertive in you’re approach and helps build a active sense of achieving and and helps relise the feel good factor values in self being once you start to decluttering the self worth it will make more space for self achieving and working with you’re energy and concentration
I am the exact same way! I have so much that needs done, I just sit on my butt and look at it. My mother was the best housekeeper in the world. I used to be just like her. Well, during the COVID, I decided no one was coming to my house so, I didn't need to do it. I just watched TV. Now, I have had both vaccines, people may be coming. I have lost both my sisters (not to that) but it depresses me. This past month, I lost my brother-in-law. I have two children who are so busy with their families, they rarely come. I have so many health issues, I can't even cook anymore. Each time I try, it takes two days to clean up the kitchen. I could blame it on age and health which is true but it is so depressing--my niece used to clean twice a month--now she is moving to another state! I can't do it and I can't find anyone to help me. Sometimes I think I just need someone to talk to but even my friends are gone. I do have a husband but he has his own health issues. He isn't exactly like a woman friend or whatever. Breja, I know how you are feeling! Flylady is a place where people can learn to do stuff 15 minutes at a time! Maybe you should try it. Maybe I should! Woogie.
Try doing things one project at a time. Forget about the list and put all your focus on that one project. Then move to the next one and so on...Good luck👍🙏.
The way you feel is not uncommon. Often when we are overwhelmed, our natural instinct is to retreat! I think if you felt like prioritizing your list, things would feel more manageable. Don't worry about a messy apartment. That's just part of life. Maybe you could reward yourself for projects completed (doesn't have to be expensive). You are going to do great things!!!
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