I have no idea where to turn

[DaveK3727]

I am a 52 year old man at the end of his rope. I was diagnosed with agoraphobia and am suffering from severe heart disease and am a two time stroke survivor. My most recent stay in the hospital lead to the diagnosis that my Lima is failing and the surgeon will not operate again due to the high risk. Well naturally depression is hitting me like a ton of bricks and my agoraphobia has kept me in the house for the last week, I cant even open my mail everything scares the hell out of me. All I want to do is settle some of my affairs before I go and not leave them with my wife, oh and I lie to her constantly that all is good and everything is in order yeah its not. I just cant do it I have a letter from my health insurance to send to a debt collector that proves a bad report on my credit should be removed from my credit and I cant even follow through with that too scary. Im 6'6" weigh 245 lbs. and look like a formidable man but I am not at all I have had paperwork to fill out for almost six months now and just cant do it. I'm gonna die soon enough so suicide is not on my mind but my god why is there nowhere to turn for people like me? I need help bad any suggestions?

[Dolphin14]

You certainly have a lot on your plate. I'm sorry you are so sick.

The thing that comes to my mind is you have to let your wife "in". She needs to know what's going on and she can help with these things you need to get done.

If something does happen you want your house in order. You don't want her jumping through hoops to figure it all out.

You also need to let her know about your health so that's not taking her off guard.

You can rely on each other to get through this.

You've been through a lot. I hope you have many years ahead of you. None of us know what the future holds. Don't leave her out of the equation.

Take care.

[hypercat54 in reply to Dolphin14]

Exactly what I was going to say! x

[Dolphin14 in reply to hypercat54]

Hyper you always make me smile

[hypercat54 in reply to Dolphin14]

That's what friends are for 😋 x

[All_alone]

You have so much coming at you from so many angles. Please sit down and talk to your lovely wife. Hopefully it will benefit both of you. If possible, please consider hiring an estate planning lawyer. As a good one can do everything or just give you guidance. Wishing you the best.