How Should I Talk To Her?

Today I wrote down my feelings and built up the courage to talk to my aunt about what has been going on with me. Now moving forward I just want to try to build up the relationship and grow. So how should I go about expressing my feeling and talking to her? I don't want her to feel like I'm ungrateful for all her sacrifices and the things she does for me. Is there a way I should be approaching her? Do any parents have any tips? Or teens who have a great relationship with their parents have any tips?

[EndUser13]

Hi Barb ✌️

I tend to be forward and often blunt with just about everyone, I figure that the less reason I give for people to misunderstand me the better... that never seems to work out with my sense of humor though.

Most people tend to be comfortable with generalizations at first and work into details. If you have a good rapport with your aunt, I'd just speak from the heart. If you think you need to feel your way into a good approach, start off with something vague but still meaningful.

I'm not a parent unless you consider cats to be children

[Hidden in reply to EndUser13]

thanks, I'll try to be blunt in a respectful way.

[EndUser13 in reply to Hidden]

Ah yes, definitely with some respect! Sorry I assumed that part. Good luck!

[Mumma_h]

Hey barb4lifers, are you able to say what’s going on with you and your aunt ? If not, then I agree with enduser13 with coming from the heart . It could up a really good discussion if you both could talk respectfully back and forth and hugs in the end . Depending on your aunts personality you may have to be the one to soften the blow , if it’s something about her that’s upsetting you . You could start with ‘ auntie can I please talk with you because I trust you and I need your help with this , and I’m sure I can talk to you about this ‘ . If it’s not about her you could start with ‘ auntie I really need some advice on something ‘ . Just some suggestions, but go with your heart honey ❤️

[Hidden in reply to Mumma_h]

thanks for the advice I will use I. but I was born when she was 14 and I lived with her and my grandma until my grandma died. and then she worked 2 jobs and went to college so it was never just us. and we have had a rocky relationship since my depression started because I never knew how to talk to her or if she would take it as disrespectful.

[Iammesues in reply to Hidden]

Start by telling her you love her, you respect her, and because of that you want to share with her

[Mumma_h]

What I can tell you sweetheart is that when my children come to me and ask for help , and be themselves and be completely honest with how they’re feeling, and not put on an appearance, that’s when I’m able to help them the most, because most parents or aunts want to they just don’t what you need . This allows me to be there for them and comfort them . Praying your aunt is the same with you , let your guard down, and don’t be afraid, it sounds like she must really care for you because you said she’s been there for you , I hope she really really loves you and is there emotionally too, not just for the physical stuff ,if she is like this and loving then you’ll be on the track already 😉🙏💕💕💕

[Hidden in reply to Mumma_h]

okay, thanks❤️. I'll try to be completely honest and let my guard down.

[Hidden]

I would say thank you. And tell her what is going on with you. Respectfully. Almost like chowing words and tone professionally and warmly.

[Iammesues]

You talk to her?