Empty

[BlueMoon29]

I haven't been here in awhile because I've been pretty withdrawn. Instead of feeling depressed I now just feel empty. I have no emotions at all and stay by myself in my room zoning out. It's like I've just accepted this as my life. I know deep down that I'm not happy but have zero motivation/lack of energy/will to do anything about it. I'm only getting older and am completely wasting my life. What is wrong with me?

[Hb2003]

Much hugs and support ❤️🫂 there’s nothing wrong with you we feel that sometimes in some points in our life

[BlueMoon29 in reply to Hb2003]

Thanks Hb! ❤

[Hb2003 in reply to BlueMoon29]

Your welcome ☺️

[lena16]

Hello! There’s nothing wrong with you. I was in this stage for a long time too. Its hard and at least for me there weren’t really any words of encouragement that worked because its not like I don’t know them its just That I don’t feel them because I don’t feel anything. Didn’t think I would ever change since I’d been like that for a few years, but once I just accepted it and didn’t put so much pressure on myself to get better I started taking things step by step again, and although I have a lot left to go its still progress. Don’t put pressure on yourself by saying you’re wasting your life because that doesn’t change how you feel it just makes you feel more stuck. I’m here if you ever need to talk ❤️❤️ I relate a lot to what you’re saying

[BlueMoon29 in reply to lena16]

Thank you, I appreciate it! 😊

[HopeandFaith100]

I hear you. Are there any clubs you can join or hobbies you can take up? It’s hard to be motivated to be creative when your depressed. I started watching inspiring videos about meditation and I think it helped. Just thinking about you hoping you feel better.

[BlueMoon29 in reply to HopeandFaith100]

Not really. I'm far from home right now and have no vehicle. I was thinking about trying to watch some videos as well. I need to make a list of things to try actually.

[HopeandFaith100 in reply to BlueMoon29]

That’s a good idea. I hear a lot of people are using this time for self care, getting to know themselves, trying new things, learning new things out of sheer boredom. It can be positive in some respects but definitely boring and lonely. This is a great site for connecting. Tik Tok is pretty good too if you’re patient with swiping through the videos you don’t like, you can find some great content. Rodney Norman is a total hoot!

[BlueMoon29 in reply to HopeandFaith100]

Thank you for the recommendations! I definitely spent the last year doing nothing so I need to start really working on my life now.

[Kainan]

Hi. There's nothing wrong with the way you're feeling. I was feeling the same way at one point and it's such a horrible feeling to feel stuck and unable to do anything about it. And it's ok to accept if today hasn't gone so well. I know it's hard not to do but try not to put too much pressure on yourself because that will only fan the flames and won't change how you feel. If there's this nagging feeling inside of you to do something that you know will help you, then do it right away. Even if you only do that one thing that day, you will know you have accomplished something. And then, the next day do it again, and maybe the following week add something else to it. It's gradually building back your routine step by step. My example that I did was go outside and walk around the park and through my neighborhood. I see where you're coming from and you have mine and a lot of support on here. 👍

[BlueMoon29 in reply to Kainan]

Thank you! I tend to be "all or nothing" then I overwhelm myself. It's always worked for me in the past but I guess this time is different. I do need to learn how to do things slowly and still feel accomplished.

[Kainan in reply to BlueMoon29]

Yeah I get you because I'm so much like that also. It's just a slow step by step process. There's actually a mindfulness practice where you intentionally do things slowly; it's by no means a breeze haha

[BlueMoon29 in reply to Kainan]

Oh I know! I tried it and wanted to pull my hair out lol. I can't do anything slow. I've always been used to rushing. Honestly the busier and more rushed I am the less my anxiety is. Stress is higher but actual anxiety is lower. It's weird.

[Kainan in reply to BlueMoon29]

I understand what you mean. I tend to think of those two as the same thing. After a long and busy day, no matter what, I need to slow down and have some "me" time

[Hidden]

How are you

I know it would be pointless to encourage you bcz depression causes lack of motivation on its own. But you need to know that you can not fight depression on your own. If it causes you not to do anything, then maybe you need to get meds to boost you before you start anything. Maybe see a therapist to help you professionally. We are here for support

[BlueMoon29 in reply to Hidden]

I agree. I'm definitely feeling helpless in trying to overcome this on my own. I'll do ok for a day or two then I'm right back to being down.