Update on Love

[babyjsmama]

I let my husband read my journal this morning when he got in from work. I know he was tired from working all night so I told him he could read it whenever he felt like it. He read it right away which meant a lot to me. He gave me a hug and said I’m sorry you go through that everyday and I can see how it can be exhausting. I know he still doesn’t completely understand (there’s no way he could) but I feel at least he knows why when I come home sometimes I’m so tired and quiet and that it has nothing to do with him. He asked me the next time he asked me what’s wrong to not say nothing he said it makes him feel like I don’t want to open up. He said if it’s your depression tell me and tell me what you need. If you need a hug I will make sure you get one, if you need to talk we will talk, if you need to be alone I will take care of our daughter and you can go watch TV, pray or whatever you need to do. My husband really is one of a kind. ❤️.

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[Starrlight]

You are blessed. ⭐️ ✨ ✨

[babyjsmama in reply to Starrlight]

Yes I am. God has answered everyone of my prayers. So I know he will always help me through my mental issues.

[Hidden]

I just sent a 😊 because your post made me happy to read. I didnt have time to send anything else, but now I do...Its really lovely that your husband cares so much. He seems like a really great guy. He reminds me of my friend who is also a very happy man but he has a wife who suffers emotionally. He really cares about her though and tries to understand her and even researches mental health. He does it because he loves her and he also believes in God and the Bible and tries to live by the direction 'love and cherish your wife'. I think when we try our best to genuinely love one another we are happier for it and the people around us are happier. Its true that your husband doesnt understand because he doesnt experience what you do (neither does my friend understand depression) but it seems obvious to me that they are both genuine and they are both trying. Hes a good example to me in just really trying to be there and have love for others (especially family) despite our limitations in understanding. Thank you for sharing this and giving us an update.

[Rafiki11]

I love reading this!

[Hidden]

It seems to me that at heart you and your husband really want to be closer and communicate even though it can feel difficult at times. Maybe a good thing to help you communicate is for your husband to ask you 'how are you feeling?' instead of 'whats wrong?'. This way you dont feel you have to explain why you have feelings you may not understand, but you still get to express something. I know hes trying his best but sometimes the feelings can feel too overwhelming to understand, never mind have to explain them.

[babyjsmama in reply to Hidden]

That’s a good idea!

[Hidden in reply to babyjsmama]

Your husband sounds fab and also very understanding. I like Cuddly Bear's idea of saying how are you feeling? I'm lucky that I have an understanding husband too. I had to finish work on ill health retirement in June 2018 and he has been there for me every step of the way. I'm very lucky to have a great support network of family and friends and of course everyone on here. Pm me anytime of day or night Lots of love and hugs Lynne xxxx ❤️🤗💜 🤗

[babyjsmama in reply to Hidden]

Will do! Thank you!

[Hidden in reply to babyjsmama]

You are very welcome xxxx ❤️🤗💜🤗

[Hidden]

He is such a nice person. U are truly lucky. I understand u very well when u say u want to be with people who understand u. There is one thing I know for a fact, a person who does not suffer from depression can never really get you no matter how much they try. This is why I also decided to join HU. No matter how much ur husband tries, he can't fully get it but I like him for being there, u have found the right group of people.

[babyjsmama in reply to Hidden]

Thank you!

[Rafiki11]

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I sent this to my mom and sisters to help them understand what I’m experiencing and what is helpful to me.