I was told by my husband (him trying to learn to be vulnerable and open) that he had feared telling me this for many years (married now 13y) that during year 2-3 he'd wake up in the middle of the night like nightmarish thinking as he woke and looked at me his feeling that he didn't know who this was he was married to. He shared that he fears he can't love me how I deserve to be loved. I'm working on patience as he learns to be open and vulnerable but he's practicing on a chat so I have anxiety daily not knowing if he's connecting with others and maybe a chat relationship or more. However he came from a divorced family he was 8y and he had to deal with things on his own and didn't have the parental and family love that I grew up with. I feel he's damaged greatly by his mom and he hasn't tapped into that yet. Can anyone who loves their spouse but maybe has a history of depression that understand this, fear of not being able to love your spouse deely, explain to me so I can try to understand my spouse.? Can I help him in some way?