I feel like I have no one to turn to

[npg1013]

I have been living with depression and anxiety my whole life. Lately, it has been almost unbearable. I am constantly fighting my own thoughts and reminding myself that I deserve to be here and that people need me. It is exhausting to be in a constant battle with myself. I have tried to explain my feelings to some people close to me to try and reach out for help but no one seems to understand. I am feeling helpless and don’t know what to do because I know I can’t keep fighting on my own. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

[Jeff1943]

That's far too long to be living with anxiety and depression npg1013.

Fighting with the symptoms of anxiety and battling with yourself must cause nervous exhaustion. They certainly cause more tension and stress that help maintain your already over sensitised nerves in their present state.

Time to let go. Time to stop fighting. Time to simply accept it for the time being without confrontation. Far better to agree to co-exist with your anxieties for the present. What real harm can they do? It's a rhetorical question, I shall answer it for you - nothing!

The symptoms of anxiety are tricks that over sensitised nervous systems play on us causing mental and physical fatigue and a host of bad feelings. But they cannot kill you, disable you or send you crazy.

So slow down, let the bad feelings of anxiety come, let them flow round and over you even as incoming waves break on a rock of the shore. They will recede soon enough. Accept them completely, offer no resistance, show no fear and you deny that which is keeping your nerves over sensitised.

You win not by the punches that you give but by the punches that you take.

[littlenam in reply to Jeff1943]

Can’t agree more with this post. You have to give yourself time and space to just let the feelings go through you. I know it sounds way easier said than done, but literally, just sit alone and think about how you feel, try to identify your feelings and the reasons for them. It’s scary to face things head on and alone like that, but with practice it will get easier. And then things will get better.

For me, I was (am?) in the same boat, and things only got better for me when I let it all fall apart. I had to do some scary stuff like stop working for a while, but it was something I wish I had done a long, long time ago.

Reach out for help. Keep reaching out until you latch on to a resource or a tool that helps. Be an advocate for yourself.

[chip9kjen in reply to Jeff1943]

Never heard it expressed so simply and concisely, Jeff. I hope you're a blogger!

[Jeff1943 in reply to chip9kjen]

Sorry chip9kjen, but I don't have a blog. Though if you click on my icon you will find a list of the posts I have made advocating Acceptance which was the method devised by Claire Weekes for recovery from anxiety disorder as expressed in her first book 'Hope and help for your nerves.' Maybe you've come across it, if not worth investing a few dollars to obtain a new or used copy from Amazon or Ebay. Thank you for your comments.

[Hidden]

n1,

Tell me what's going on today ???

🐾

[npg1013 in reply to Hidden]

I’m feeling overwhelmed. I’m feeling like my sadness is affecting my kids which is making me feel even worse. I feel like I want to give up but I can’t because my kids need me. I feel so alone even though I’m not. I just feel like I falling apart.

[Hidden in reply to npg1013]

n1,

Is there anything you can do that you enjoy that you can't or don't do because you are feeling overwhelmed or are in too much suffering and pain to even begin to do or to take it seriously ???

A long question but I hope you can try to answer ???

Cat

😻

[npg1013 in reply to Hidden]

I enjoy writing/journaling and that usually helps me but I’m too overwhelmed to even get my thoughts together. I’ve reached a point where most days I can’t do anything other than the necessities bc I have no motivation. I also enjoy going on walks but can’t find the energy or motivation for that.

[Hidden in reply to npg1013]

If you can get yourself to go for a walk I promise you that I will too and get back to you about it, anytime is okay or tomorrow is okay too...

Cat

🙃

[npg1013 in reply to Hidden]

Ok I will try. Thank you for responding.

[Hidden in reply to npg1013]

I'm getting ready and going out by 5:30 pacific time - I will report -

boss

[Hidden in reply to npg1013]

That's one hour from now

[Hidden in reply to npg1013]

I’m chilling at the park like I said I would

🙋‍♂️

[Hidden in reply to npg1013]

Listening to music and smokin’ an herbal cigarette, relaxing...

Fed the ducks too..

😎

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Location services can prove I’m really here...

😺

[npg1013 in reply to Hidden]

It’s too late to go on a walk here but I plan to go tomorrow morning after a nice cup of coffee. That’s sounds very relaxing though!

[Hidden in reply to npg1013]

I’ll go again too if that’s okay with you...

I really enjoy going out- it’s a huge park with very few people here...

I like the duckies too !!!

Chris

be brave in the AM !

😎

[Buttercup4 in reply to npg1013]

I understand what you’re going through I feel that nobody understands what I’m going through my kids are all grown and my husbands always working and I moved to a new state and don’t know anybody and I just feel lonely all the time

[Marysblue]

You're not alone, we are here. And definitely understand what you're dealing with. I too feel like no one in my life really cares. Try to find someone you can talk to.I found a student counselor through a University that I talk to on the phone just to unload. This depression takes a lot of strength to deal with. You are strong, you'll be okay. I think learning self-compassion is key, but it's so hard to do when you're down.

Hope things are better for you soon.

[LennyL]

I am there with you. My first experience feeling depressed I was 16. Now at 35, I still get depressed. I didn’t get out of bed for three weeks when I was quarantining. I know my body by now and have amazing doctors. I’m a clinically depressed, and I’m okay with that because my medicine helps me. Music is also my medicine. You are so not alone, believe me!!! Please don’t talk about suicide, it’s the wrong and easy way out. My best friend killed herself. I will never know why. That pains me. Do you have a good support team and see the right Doctors?

[ciley]

i am similar to you.anxious and now struggling with dep' not enough help,help is not always right let down by gps~just so you know YOU ARE NOT ALONE and i will reply to any message u send me ~Catman22 sounds good~you had good helpful replies~so thanks for your post ciley

[ciley]

think i sent u a reply~can't ever work this site~with you anyway~your replies applied to me !

[Barbie72]

On m eds or seeing a therapist?

[npg1013 in reply to Barbie72]

I’m on meds (Paxil daily and klonopin as needed), but I have no health insurance so I can’t afford a therapist n I try to make my medicine last bc I pay out of pocket.

[Cellardoor]

I feel the same way. It is relentless and only those who have experienced it can relate. I too have lived with it off snd on for my entire life, I’ve been in therapy for years and on anti depressive and anti anxiety prescriptions for decades.Because others don’t understand, compassion and support are scarce.

As a family member said to me: “We can’t deal with your problem because it brings us down too. “

And so we suffer in silence , afraid to tell anyone but a therapist or fellow sufferer how we feel. Or even ask for help. It is such a lonely and painful way to live.

The only thing that has brought me any relief lately has been EFT or tapping. I took one on one lessons for a few weeks and now try to listen to Nick Ortner online. Some of his videos are free. Others require an app.

Hugs and blessings to you.

[goldieoldie]

hi there,I can identify with your feelings and this is the first time I have opened up on Health Unlocked,regarding having no one to relate too,my whole life has either been spent ,afraid and unwanted ,but Like Jeff1943,said Dr Claire Weeks has helped me enormously to understand how Anxiety ,depression.,agorophobia and other stress related illnesses,phobias panic,and how we perpetuate those feelings ....would like to talk morePm. me .wishing you all the best for future relations,