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Depression and anxiety issues


I just turned 37. I have had anxiety and depression since my early 20s. It has cost me jobs in the past because feeling anxious and depressed has always made me shy. I have a hard time keeping my emotions in check.

As a child, I was bullied a lot which means I never made friends and its something I still struggle to do.

I have been a preschool teacher for 7 years now and there are days that are a struggle to keep my emotions in check. I feel anxious a lot

2020 as taken a toll on me mentally and physically. I'm sure I'm not the only one. I take 100 mg of sertraline and my doctor just started me on gabapetin 100mg. It is making me so shaky and its hurting my stomach. I just started seeing a therapist and I hope he can help me to calm down. I have my parents whom I still live with but I don't always want to complain to them.

Sorry about the long post. I just wanted to vent.

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That's okay, vent all you like, sometimes it helps just to get it all out!!! I don't have the answers, but please don't ever feel alone. There's a great community on here. I hope the therapy helps.🙂

Thanks for sharing.

May the LORD show you his favor and give you his peace. Numbers 6:26.

I am sorry you are feeling this way. I have been in counseling for 2 yrs. It has helped me and I hope it does for you. Chamomile tea and weighted blankets calm me down. I struggle with controlling my emotions too. My sister hates it and makes me feel bad about myself for it. Will going for a walk or some art form help bring relief?

I would walk more but I’m in Arizona and it’s still near 100 everyday. It’s in the 70s in the morning but I work at 6am during the week. On the weekends I don’t want to get up early enough lol. I’ve never tried a weighted blanket. I might need to.

That's understandable with the heat. Yeah, I recommend it. They are difficult to clean though.

It sounds like life has been very hard for you and you are trying to address the underlying issues by seeing a doctor and a therapist. So, give yourself some credit for recognizing your need for help and for reaching out for it. That is a very big deal.

Is your doctor a psychiatrist or other type? I ask because the medications he or she is prescribing seems a little unusual in my experience. I am no doctor, nor do I profess to be suggesting an alternative course of treatment. I would only say that a good quality psychiatrist is important who understands the psychotropic medications extremely well for them to work properly. Ideally, they should be in touch with your therapist and be having regular appointments with you to adjust your medications ("fine-tune" them).

You are on the right path, just keep going and when something is not working, try stepping back to figure out why. I am sure you can get there.

Nyazfan83 in reply to dmt1121

I appreciate your comments. I see a primary doctor, a psychiatrist who is regulating my medications. I also just started seeing a psychologist a couple of weeks ago. I have these appointments over the phone. I need to check in with my psychiatrist this week again to do something about my anxiety. What she put me on this week is making me physically ill and keeping me awake all night.

dmt1121 in reply to Nyazfan83

Yes, definitely tell your psychiatrst about being nauseous. She shoul dchnage your meds.

Keep us posted.

Now I just found out this morning that my grandmother passed away. She’s in Tennessee and my parents and I are in Arizona. She was 91 and I just found out about it this morning as my Aunt called. Life is never easy.

Phil-4-13 in reply to Nyazfan83

You have my sympathy for your loss. Hope you give yourself some time to grieve. A friend of mine just passed away this week as well. She was 91 too. Not a relative, but she was a good friend, super outgoing and thoughtful. It feels a little bit like losing a family member.

Hang in there! I hope your doctor changes your medication or something to help you feel better.

Thank you for posting, and it's totally appropriate here to vent! Things will get better for sure. Give it time.

I have been severely depressed and anxious for a year and a half (with some days of relief thank god). It's a long road sometimes to find the right pharmaceutical cocktail. Side effects are numerous- have tremors, too. But it HAS gotten better, slowly but surely, I have more good days than I used to.


I lived in AZ for 20 years and never got used to the heat!

I’ve been i AZ for 23 years. 24 in January. I still hate the heat but I don’t have to deal with the brutal cold and snow from living in NYC.

I am glad you reached out. It stinks to feel anxious. I have struggled with it for years along with depression. I am also a teacher of KG - 5th grade and know how hard it is to keep my emotions in check. Some days, I just felt like I was going through the motions, but not able to feel good at all. I am glad you are going to see a therapist. Healing comes from the inside out. It starts with letting go of the things of the past, forgiving and healing from the past. Then moving forward through positive self-talk. Becoming aware of what you need through self-care and personal nourishment. Take time for yourself - you are worth it. Like taking walks, baths, massages, mani/pedi/, listening to uplifting music/sermons and anything that makes you feel refreshed and renewed. Two techniques that have helped me with my anxiety and depression are 557 deep breathing and my gratitude journal. The 557 breathing technique is take 5 deep breaths in while thinking good thoughts about yourself like I matter, I am special , I am strong and then hold the breaths for the count of 7 focusing on those words about yourself, then let out the breath slowly for 5 seconds letting go of any anxious, self-defeating, unhealthy thought. I do this one to three times a sitting. The gratitude journal is writing down something good every morning and night something that went well in the day, or something I appreciate about myself. Taking our focus off of the anxiety and depression and focusing on positive uplifting things really helps. What you think is what you believe. So thinking uplifting things you believe those things but the reverse is true - thinking negative self-defeating things, you will believe those. I rather feel uplifted. I will be praying for you. Feel free to pm me if you'd like to chat. Hugs and God Bless

How are you doing today? I have been praying for you. Hugs

Thank you so much for asking. I’ve her really anxious still but I’m trying to hang in there.

Been every anxious and I get migraines as well everyday. I had to come off of an anxiety medicine that I was subscribed last week because it was making me sick to my stomach. I was put on migraine medications by my primary doctor and it kicked in last night to knock it out. I have not had a migraine or a tension headache so far today.

I work with one year olds at a preschool and it makes me anxious but I have to put on my brave face to show I can do my job.

Glad the new medication helped some and you are not having headaches. I know how hard it is to put on your brave face, but I know you can do it. Just each time you struggle with an anxious thought try not to focus on it or address it; instead have other uplifting positive thoughts to focus on. For me each day I have to remind myself I don't have to worry or fear because I believe God is in control of all things. I am not sure what you believe but that really works for me. When I take my thoughts off of myself and my concerns and focus on good things I feel better. It takes discipline to stop those thoughts from continuing but the more you do it the more it becomes a habit and the better you will feel. I will continue to be praying for you. Hugs

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