Relationship anxiety

[anaredd20]

Sometimes I find myself worrying if my new boyfriend is going to leave; self sabotaging the whole relationship!

[Mary-intussuception]

Could you need healing of some past experience?

Why do you think you feel insecure?

[anaredd20 in reply to Mary-intussuception]

Yes! And I think it’s because my dad has always been too busy for me most of the time and I’ve been hurt a lot by different guys.

[Mary-intussuception in reply to anaredd20]

So how could you best move forward from this (past hurts)?

[anaredd20 in reply to Mary-intussuception]

I’m not sure 😞😪

[anaredd20 in reply to anaredd20]

I just get racing thoughts alot

[Mary-intussuception in reply to anaredd20]

Have you ever tried talking to your Dad about this?

Have you forgiven him?

It's not easy, but try fighting off negative thoughts with positive thoughts. Think about your boyfriend's good qualities and prepare yourself for when you're together. Remind yourself to relax and take things one step at a time. Make the most of the moment without over-worrying about the future. Let go of past hurts. Two is the right number in a relationship so dismiss thoughts of past hurts and "what ifs" so that they don't invade the present and destroy the future.

Generally, you could think about some relaxation techniques. Just simple things like thinking about your breathing. Breathe in for a count of 3 then out for 3, increase to 4. Sit somewhere quiet and sip a cup of cold water, feel the refreshment it btings. Go for a walk in the park, take in the air and concentrate on the beauty of nature.