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I just found out why my friend wasnt talking with me- she was in a toxic relationship and the jerk of a guy got mad when she talked with anybody but him.she finally talked to me again saying she left the relationship but now she is saying she wants to go back and im scared she might actually go back! the picture is what i said to her but i dont know if its enough and im so scared of losing her again to that toxic relationship

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You can’t make her not go back. All you can do is be supportive and be there when she needs you. Never make her feel bad for going back. She’s been broken down by this guy. And until she comes to the realization that he is bad and wants to be done with him. Nothing will change.

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thanks for the advice i def wont make the mistake of scolding her for going back because i do understand that that jerk has so much control over her so its his fault not her

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but i dont have the resolve or the heart to do that to her..

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i understand that i could get hurt but she is my friend so i wont abandon her i guess all that anime got to my head XD

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besides she has already told me how she is scared i will leave her just like everyone else so just abandoning her is too cruel

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well its just a lot of people have left her for different reasons and she is just scared that im the same that i will leave her and she will be alone again that is a reason why she wants to go back

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I feel like once they start cutting off outside communication it is domestic abuse. Toxic is too mild. Who know what else goes on but when it gets violent I think it is domestic terrorism. The average 7 times before someone in an abusive relationship leaves. This isn't just breaking the cycle it is escape. I do agree that distance is healthy.

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You can lay the seed. Let her know there are places she can go to get help. Simply leaving doesn't work if she is dependent on him financially. The next worst step is to have children thinking that will "make things better". Then walking away is exponentially harder.

For you I agree keep your distance while let her know you are available when she takes steps to leave (if you are willing). The key is to be there for her when she does take steps to leave. It doesn't hurt to have a list of resources handy. This is not easy but you can't give the impression of accepting the relationship either.

I had this exact same scenario happen to me. In her case she also had local police and an uncle lawyer taking his side. Her sister wasn't knowledgeable about domestic abuse either. She ended up staying and now her kids are dealing with the emotional baggage. It is hard to fight all that opposition.

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well they stopped contacting me again..

I also just left a toxic 13year relationship

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nice!you were brave to leave the relationship i know its not easy

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