Relationship Anxiety

[bambeno]

My boyfriend has cheated on me multiple times, only in the form of being on dating websites and texting other girls while we are together. i often find myself having nightmares about it or even just feeling very overwhelmed with the thought that it will happen again. certain things that have happened in the past related to his cheating such as an old friend coming back into our lives, trigger's my stress and anxiety. i don't know what to do to help me get past this and be able to be in a healthy trusting relationship with him again. or even to to calm my self when i am triggered by something to not just have a breakdown/ freak-out moment. can anyone help?

[Hidden]

I would break ties with him. It isn’t worth the stress. Their are many other guys out there. Why do you feel you have to stick with this guy? Is it a self esteem issue?

[Ironj]

Personally I would drop him. Once a cheat they will always at some point cheat again. There like a thief they just can help themselves. If you think he will change then stay but I don’t think you believe he will. There’s a lot of people in this world that would love to be with a trusted partner so go find that someone.

[hannah821]

He sounds as if he is commitment phobic . Bad news. He is still looking around. So, give him a helpful push out the door.

[fauxartist]

A Leopard does not change their spots...he likes to have you and play....that is not healthy for you to be sloppy seconds to his on-line activities It is very self demeaning to try and have any dignity around that. Unless you agreed to an open relationship...this will never work. One door closes and another will open.....so close this chapter in your life and know this is not what you want in a relationship.

[Hidden]

I think you deserve better!!! Be strong & walk away, it will be hard but in the end better for you! You don't know what's waiting for you around the corner....perhaps what you do deserve! Love & Hugs!!!

[Rpan]

Your depending on this relationship for some reason. The stress is coming from the dependency for some reason. Imagine what you would do if this guy asked you to marry him, how would you feel than, knowing full well he will likely cheat again. I don’t would never say end it because that is a personal decision, but I would look inside for the reasons to continue on with this man.

[hypercat54]

Hi how can you trust him when he is continually cheating on you? You are asking the impossible as trust can never be a part of this relationship.

My advice to you would be to ditch this man and find one who treats you with the love and respect you need and deserve. x

[Want2BHappy3]

Sorry, the only thing you can do is break up with him. Know that's not what you want to hear. He's a serial cheater, nothing's going to change. Why should he? You're putting up with it. Is this how you want to live? I had an exhusband who cheated and had a couple of kids during our marriage. I left, he kept cheating on whatever relationship he was in. You sound desperate to be hanging on, men don't like that. Get Strong and get YOU back, your Worth it.

[Windy101]

Being on dating Web sites and texting other girls is a good reason for anxiety. You're smart! And your mind and body are telling you this isn't right. Run from this dude. You can do so much better.

[bambeno]

Thank you everyone for the responses it definitely helped me. but does anyone have an idea on what to do to help my anxiety or to overcome this for the next chapter in my life?

[VanessaGail]

I agree, he doesn't value you or he would be afraid of losing you and care about being faithful to you. It's a jungle out there. I think people are better off single, working on themselves, their kids and getting their lives right with God. You can grow and become stronger you can like solitude. You can grow and change. You don't have to live with abuse and disrespect. Let him go, love yourself and its not the end of the world if you don't have a man. Its probably a new beginning in your life. Blessings to you

[VanessaGail]

Bible verses on fear are very strong. They have helped me. True Christian mentors who are wise and loving people who desire good for you and watch out for your soul is an excellent start. Prayer and bible study are excellent. Journaling about feelings. Forgiving ppl and moving forward. Counseling, hobbies, exercise, counseling and or medication, nature, pets, eating healthy, getting rest etc is a help too me

[JakeCorn]

I think that you should break with him, because it seems that this is not healthy relationship. I had very similar situation, my boyfriend was cheating on my, not only on dating websites, but with real girls. I knew it, but I couldn't prove it. My boyfriend was constantly trying to convince me that I was imagining this. As a result, I developed terrible paranoia and stress. He played with me, because he liked to control me, my life. I am glad that with the help of my friends I realised all and broke with him. So, that's why I advise you to think well and to take a good decision. You can start with one test breakupangels.com/toxic-rel... that will help you to realize that you have a toxic relationship.

[uniquediamond]

I was in the same boat for many years! My final and last straw was when I couldn’t handle it anymore. I sat back one day and told myself, your worth so much more! If you have to question this relationship, then you shouldn’t be in it. Trust me I know easier said then done. I’ve been there! But remember it does it better!