Finding friends

[sullixxx]

So i live in a small town in England, my only friends are all male (i am also) far right racists who all drink heavily and are dicks. I'm 18 in a week and feel like i should have found my friends by now. I'm not going to university and now i feel like this would have been a good opportunity to meet people. I feel like I'm just unlikable and unlovable. I'm too scared to ask for a therapist or anyone to talk too.

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It's not you. I'm in the same situation. Since I've graduated school, it's hard to make friends. I'm at age, where people have kids and I do not, so no friends. Out of a job where it can be easy to make friends, but I am unemployed so no friends. Moved to a different state where I know zero people. I think I'm likeable, but not in a situation where I can make friends. I think it's your situation and you are likeable. It sucks. I know first-hand. However, try to be gentle on yourself.

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I always thought about how making friends was so easy as a child now it’s nowhere near as easy lol. Let’s all be friends 😄

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Ok. We're friends. Write me anytime and I'll write you.

[Dog_Lover1]

Hi Sullixxx,

I'm sorry you're experiencing these feelings; I know this is a difficult time for you.

The good news is that you had the courage to reach out here, within this online group. I hope that we can support you and be new friends to you. DogLover1

[AomameGreenPeas]

Oh god, my heart goes out to you. I remember all too well the pain of being 18 and lonely - it’s easy to say it gets better when you’re on the other side of things. It can take a while to find your people. If your small town doesnt have those people maybe you can find them in online communities that share your interests? In the meantime though know that you are absolutely lovable and deserving of care and there’s plenty of discreet ways to find help these days. There’s online counselling services like better help and anonymous helplines you can call or text. I remember feeling guilty the first time I called a helpline because I felt I didn’t deserve it and wasn’t sick enough. But it may have helped save my life. If you’re too scared to go to a therapist in person perhaps you could do it in a more anonymous way like this.

Hope you get the help you need. ♥️

[peacenix]

I'm a few years older than you, 20, but I get what you're feeling. Please feel free to reach out if you ever want a friend, even just to say hello

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Hi 👋

Be careful who you hang around. It’s so easy to follow what your friend do just to fit in but that never does anyone good. You’re still so young and you’ve got a bright future ahead. I am in my 20’s and I haven’t done college yet. I am still trying to figure out what I want to do. I don’t have many friends either and i’m fine with that. I rather have no friends than being around people who aren’t a good influence on me. You are lovable! I’m glad you reached out on here because that’s an accomplishment. Most people can’t even do that. Don’t be scared to talk to someone because people understand and people do want to help! I am guessing you’re still living at home with parents? If so please sit down and talk with someone and tell them how you’re feeling. Don’t be ashamed! We all go through tough times in our lives and if going to therapy can help why not give it a chance? Couldn’t hurt.