Anxiety affecting relationship

[MUTD01]

I'm really really struggling to cope, my anxiety is affecting my relationship because my constant worry and fear brings me down, causes me to panic about my significant others feelings and intentions with me and cause unnecessary issues, I don't know how to handle it anymore and I feel its going to lead to me losing her.

[Hidden]

I can give you perspective from the other side. My wife gets anxiety about me all the time. She has explained that its out of love and that she doesn't want anything to happen to me. It did bother me some until we finally talked about it one day. She explained how she felt and that she just worries. So in order to keep her anxiety from getting out of hand I try to text at least once a day so she knows I'm ok. My point im trying to say is yall need to discuss the anxiety and fears. If you dont express what your thinking and they can't express what they feel yall can't work through it. It will only make the anxiety worse

[MUTD01 in reply to Hidden]

I have tried to speak about my anxious thoughts but oftentimes I go about it the wrong way, giving the wrong impression or making issues. I'll try to express myself more effectively, and in a better manner. Thank you for the response ❤️

[Sprinkle1]

I want to share with you some valuable lessons I learnt in therapy 40 years ago. I used to have a degree in worry, these lessons taught me to give it up and I did, I worry about Nothing. Lesson 1. Do not go mountain climbing over mole hills.

#2. Worry is like a rocking chair, it is in motion, but it is going NO WHERE. #3. 50 % of things we worry about NEVER HAPPEN, the other 50 % IF they happen we deal with them. So Why worry?

As to fear, remember what Roosevelt said "The is nothing to fear, except fear itself".

I myself made up my mind when I was 16 I was not going to let fear rule my life, I have not, I jumped out of a plane at 10,000 feet, Rode down the Grand Canyon on a mule, have flown in several helicopters, been up in a hot air balloon, a micro light, driven over 100 miles per hour. Flown in a Waco. Have enjoyed the heck out of myself, and have made it to 78. Because of my age I am a little afraid of the covid 19 virus, so I am very careful!

I hope this is of help, and be sure and talk to your lady friend about how you feel. Remember feelings are just that "feelings", acknowledge them and move on. Feelings may feel awful, but they do not kill. Remember you are in charge of your thoughts, when the negative ones come, kick them out, you do not keep garbage in your house, you take it out, do the same with your garbage thoughts, kick them out, play some nice music, go for a walk You can Win. I send you strength, peace, love and virtual hugs.......

[MUTD01 in reply to Sprinkle1]

I really appreciate your response, it's just been hard recently, my worries have ruled my actions and caused many issues; but you make valid points, they're often a waste of time and unnecessary, I'll attempt to not worry so much, I'm glad you've had such a great life following those methods, I hope I can too. I'm only 18 so I have a long way to go haha. Thank you again for replying, I thought getting some peoples ideas and responses may help, I'll try to take on what you've said.

Keep safe in this crazy world I hope you live more great years and enjoy them to the fullest.

[Alladin]

I also follow that advice not to worry about things that may never happen. Just learn to sort out what are the facts and what are just feelings. Facts are based on solid evidence and feelings are oftentimes not. Feelings should come out of facts. Learn to trust and be at peace if she assures you that he or she loves you. The cure to worry is to replace bad thoughts with good ones, bring in the positive and uplifting thoughts. It takes practice and sometimes easier than done but you can definitely do it.

[MUTD01 in reply to Alladin]

I really need to try and adapt a similar attitude because it's tiring, worrying about things and at times almost making them more likely to happen because I'm worrying that much and making more issues. I'll try to be more positive and do some thought rewiring and hopefully in a few months I'll post again with a more positive message.

[paul078]

Thanks 👍