Hi friends
For a little backstory - I’ve been single for the last few years (I’m in my late 20’s), and throughout that time I really worked on my anxiety, obsessive thinking (and overthinking), meditating, and I really thought that I had conquered my anxiety (I know, I know…it’s a lifelong journey 😭).
But as I’ve gotten more serious in my current relationship, my anxiety has come back full force. Before, I had no problem letting go, being alone, etc. But now, it’s like my fear of abandonment has taken me over. My boyfriend and I had a major argument a few weeks ago that I think really triggered these feelings for me. I want to give us both space to figure things out…but I can’t seem to stop asking him to reassurance and I can’t stop feeling the need to constantly talk about our issues.
While I think that’s natural to a certain extent, I want to find a way to leg go a little bit more and stop trying to control the situation. For my sake & his. Does anyone have any tips or suggestions for this? Can anyone relate?
I want to learn to control these thoughts even when I’m triggered. But I can’t stop obsessing about all the negative feelings that came with our argument. Please help! 🫶🏼