what do i do!

[sarah56]

my grandma is mad at me for my moms health even though im trying to fix up stuff. and she’s callled me spoiled and sending me to my aunts in Texas because she can’t notice anxiety symptoms. like half of my family is straight up crazy for not noticing my anxiety and depression symptoms and it’s so annoying they don’t understand at all. yeah ur daughter has depression because of her health. okay. but is she the only one hurt because of this. she hates me and she thinks i need to be a adult. I Hate being a teenager in a toxic brown family

[hypercat54]

I am wondering how old you are? As you have been on HU for 2 years and have to be a minimum of 16 to join you must be at least 18 now and legally an adult. As such no one can order you around any more.

[sarah56 in reply to hypercat54]

I’m 17

[hypercat54 in reply to sarah56]

So you were only 15 when you joined? Wow.

[sarah56 in reply to hypercat54]

yeah

[hypercat54 in reply to sarah56]

I hope you weren't given any damaging advice. HU make the minimum age 16 for legal reasons.

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[ginger01]

I'm sorry your mother is ill, This is very stressfull on everyone! Grandma should not blame you for the sickness. Why does the think this way? Most families have disfunction, so dont let anyone fool you💝 You are not having the support for your illness. Please speak with a pro to help you navigate through this. Prayers my dear

[Lazy_dog_lover]

Unless you did something directly in your control to cause mom's health change, grandma is completely wrong. Some people have what is called displaced anger. Unintentionally, the weakest link is made the receiver of their own anxiety and anger.

Are you in school? Ask for a counselor to do a sit down with you and grandma. A mediator sometimes helps. Meet the counselor. Go in with a list of things you are doing to try and help, a list of things grandma says orvdiescthat cause your stress, and some thoughts on how you can work together to help grandma and mom.

[sarah56 in reply to Lazy_dog_lover]

I don’t even know

[Lazy_dog_lover in reply to sarah56]

First, just keep some notes. Make a brief list of what you are doing for mom, what is grandma's complaint, how do you react to grandma?

Are you the only person besides grandma at home to help care for mom? If so, does grandma realize what responsibilities she would take on if she sent you away?

If you don't mind me asking, what is the closest major city near you? Maybe I can help find some resources. Is anyone a veteran? Are you working or a student?

You can do this. It just takes perspective.