Not doing so well

[tjmat]

I am not doing well. I have so much anxiety and I feel like I constantly live in fear. I can’t breathe at times and feel like my nose, throat and everything is closing up. I get into this state of shock that I cannot really move. Everything is starting to effect my work pretty badly and I’m afraid that I won’t have a job anymore. I constantly feel like a fuck up! Why do I have to feel this way...

[Joseph43]

Hello. I still suffer from anxiety and this is so bad. Mine is not as intense as yours, but still afflicts me. Feel free to drop me a message. Maybe we can talk a little. You can call me Joseph. Stay strong (if possible).

[tjmat in reply to Joseph43]

Thank you for listening to me. I an trying anything that I possible can. Some things work and some don’t. It gets worse when I involuntarily think about what’s going on during those anxiety and panic attacks.

[lorianxiety]

hi,Im so sorry for the horrible feelings your experiencing.I think you need to find an organisation that helps Women who suffer abuse daily?IM sure you must have a whole load of unexplained emotions building inside of you,even blaming yourself for being in this position,which of course reinforces your anxiety and dilemma.hope you will get back and let out how your feeling ---its important to get a backup system.

[tjmat in reply to lorianxiety]

Thank you for the information. I will look into this organization. I am trying anything that I can... sometimes it’s paralyzing and makes it harder for me to reach out. I’ve had to constantly tell myself that it is important that I do reach out because if I don’t... I don’t know if I’ll be here anymore.

[lorianxiety in reply to tjmat]

Tjmat,yes please do get that vital information,you do Not have to be subjected to any form of abuse whether mental/physical or both its essential for you mental well-being that you seek that help there must be a Womans refuge or similar type of organisation-are you in the USA,just recently,last week in fact ,there was a programme on tv Compared by Victoria cant remember off hand second name -newspresenter on BBC as she was physically abused by her father ----and its so common ,unbelievably so,however it an Unacceptable part of society and this problem (social)needs to be addressed ,don hesitate to ask MEorAnyone how to access help!!NOW

[X01WOOG in reply to lorianxiety]

I live in USA. I don't know of any organization except where you have to pay to talk to people. It gets very expensive. I would love to go to one. I can suggest one if people drink to much--that's AA. Everyone gets a chance to talk and people understand. If you are with someone who drinks, you can go to Al Anon. There have been a few groups started at the Mental Health Place but they didn't pan out for everyone. Some of the people were overweight and some of the people were underweight. These were their issues. Not everyone has that problem. The problem of being in an abusive family was not even brought up. I attended a meeting of people who lost a child and they didn't even talk about losing a child, they talked about the leader's new house and car. Not for me.

[marcus137]

I know exactly how all that feels. I just started here so I don’t know what the answers are but I can tell you you aren’t alone.

[Hidden]

I have an in law that we have had to save from an abusive relationship. The anxiety got to her really badly until we finally got her to open up and talk to us. She had anxiety talking about her anxiety. Once she began discussing her feelings things slowly began getting better. I think you are on the right track. Just keep talking with others and be truthful to yourself about your feelings. It doesn't have to be someone you know, there are plenty of people here willing to help. Just take it one day at a time

[tjmat in reply to Hidden]

I can relate to this so much. It took me more than two years to talk about it with anyone. I don’t have family, friends are all I have. I opened up to a friend but also don’t want to burden her with my issues too much. I am getting teletherapy right now. I don’t like it. I am trying multiple people to see who can understand and help me better.

Strangers on this group have been kind and understanding than anyone I talked to. I appreciate it!

[lorianxiety in reply to tjmat]

me again;you say you dont like the telepathy -is that because its impersonal??too much so !the more you open up the better ,its something I can empathise with in a way it grieves me to hear that no one appears to understand the seriousness of it all.

[X01WOOG in reply to lorianxiety]

I looked up the meaning of telepathy. I laughed when I saw the mean. It means reading minds. I know you meant teletherapy which I think is using the TV or computer to talk to a therapist. I just needed a laugh. Thank you.

[lorianxiety in reply to X01WOOG]

hi,Thats pleased me too,actually I am quite telepathic,so you have stumbled on the truth,meaning I do Try to get to the bottom of things ,and in doing so launched into something of which I hadn't read over properly;so how are you right now .Laughter does indeed lighten things overall ,and is definitely the best medicine!

[Hidden in reply to tjmat]

Most of the people are on here are here to help. Helping others is what way for everyone to cope. Also learning that you aren't the only one that feels that way will help because some people feel nobody understands them.

[Hidden]

I have the same thing! It’s so scary but it’s anxiety i’m sure. It’s been causing me many panic attacks lately..

[tjmat in reply to Hidden]

I hope you are able to seek help and manage it. It’s so difficult for me so I can understand it well and I constantly hope and pray that no one should ever be in my position. No one!

[Hidden in reply to tjmat]

Thanks! I hope you can find help as well. It breaks my heart seeing other people experience this, even myself after I have those panic attacks. It’s truly difficult and I wish more people would understand. You’re not a f*** up so don’t tell yourself that. Please just tell yourself good things. It’s easy to tell ourselves bad things and believe it. It’s always hard for me to believe the good things I tell myself but I think I should start.

[Hidden]

Yes, I have anxiety. I take medicine and talk about it. It is a horrible feeling. Keep talking to us. I found after awhile, it helped. Just give it a chance if you can. I'm here. I care.

[lorianxiety in reply to Hidden]

Caringrose,you are quite special inasmuch as your name denotes a good feeling and you deserve a lot of love in return......sending love and good wishes ,everyone needs to express themselves and moreso when you suffer as most of us on this site does from Anxiety-mine is chronic ,yes we all need to talk out our feelings !

[Hidden in reply to lorianxiety]

Thank you for your kind words. That makes me feel so good. I do care about others and I believe that makes you special too, and us all special. Unfortunately, we have this pain.

[lorianxiety in reply to Hidden]

hi thanks for your response just checking that you are ok,it started off a very pleasant warm day,but as usual it didn't last here in Scotland,had some anxiety because I was hoping to get to the beach,,,,but not so--its too far away,and some toilets closed because of the virus!hoping your day is doing well.

[Hidden in reply to lorianxiety]

Hi! Thank you for checking in. I am sorry about your anxiety and not getting to the beach. I moved and no longer have a beach to go to. I miss that. I am OK. No anxiety today. Still trying to make peace with the fact I may not see my mom again. As you know a daily struggle. Wishing you a better day, the clouds part, and you will get to the beach.

[3momstrong]

I’m new here, but you are not alone I have the exact same symptoms, in fact I woke up this morning dizzy and really struggling to just function. I know it’s ok to not be ok, but I just want to function 😭 you can message me anytime