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Want to give up and Disappear

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I am feeling so hurt right now. I worked all day from home on the internet and making phone calls all with my 5 year old daughter running around and when my spouse gets home and I am still working she waved and then disappears. So when I get done working I finish up dinner that I also got going during my 30 min break and then I find out she's leaving for a meeting for two hours. So now I have cooked dinner for no reason and she leaves after being home for like 10 minutes and won't be home until like10 pm. I just want t go to bed but again I have a 5 year old and 12 year old running around. I want to disappear because she obviously doesn't want to spend time with me. I want to work on our relationship but hard to do when the other doesn't seem to want to.

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What type of job does she have to be working some random hours like that?

That's b.s. your relationship should be priority because you both made the choice to be married. And you have kids. So yeah. She needs to step up her A game and put her part of the effort in. Just saying.

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She wasn't going to work. It is a voluntary support group meeting that she didn't even tell me she was going to all the time.

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I've been through some stuff, so excuse me for being extremely blunt, do you in fact know that's where she is? And if you did know, have you tried talking to her to tell her you feel like the relationship needs some work? I apologise I haven't read any other posts you put up, so I'm playing catch up right now

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Ok just read your other posts. Not sure what happened and it's not my place to pry. So that being said, I think that maybe being brutally honest, both of you that is, and trying to find a common ground to start. So how about a way to connect again. I will say what I'm about to tell you is painful sometimes but if you can bear through it, it could bring you guys closer. How about an honesty hour or even two hours. Where you both sit down and just lay the truth out there and let it be seen in all its glory. It's hard, but so worth it, IF you feel you and the wife are at a point where you can calmly discuss it. I've done this, and it has proven effective for me. Just an idea, not telling you to run with it, but it may help

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Oh, and I forgot to add this to my post. No judgement or holding it against the other person. Just accepting the truth for what it is, and grieving if need be, and then finding a way to grow TOGETHER and move past it. This is not one of those situations where you want to bring it up over the next ten years.

*EDIT* Unless you're like, I'm so glad you were so brutally honest with me. Then bringing it up might be ok.

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Thank you for listening. I know that's where she is I just wish she would communicate that with me so we both know says going on. You have some very good ideas. I am up or it I will have to see if she is though. Being blunt is fine I didn't take offense.

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