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Should I give up?

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First I want to say sorry for posting too much here, but it's my only source of help.

As you may know, my ex and I are very good friends. He's working every day and has one day off, so I try to see him when he can. The problem is that he never seems to find even a bit of time to see me and I think the reason is he doesn't want to.

I understand he's working and needs his rest and personal time and I always go to his place so he doesn't have to do much. But when I ask him if he would like us to see eachother, he finds excuses like "I will have to do some cleaning/cooking/going on a walk...." And it's never "I want to rest/I don't feel like seeing you...."

I always ask him to be honest, because I will understand him, but these excuses (things you can do in a maximum of 3 hours) feel strange to me.

I am leaving the country for university in 3 weeks and it's important for me to spend more time with my friends. I haven't seen him in a month and I start to think if I should give up....

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kenster1

time to move on I think you`ll still be able to stay in contact if you both wanted.

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-Charlie

Yes I’d give up. You’re not a priority of his so don’t make him one of yours. I know it’s difficult but you’ll make lots of new friends at university that you’ll vibe better with who’ll be happy to make time for you. Maybe you can just ‘do you’ in the meantime, focus on the move and spend some quality time with family. Wishing you the best x

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CLB1125

Don’t apologize for posting. That’s why we’re here.

I’m sorry dear but I think he’s politely trying to let you know he doesn’t want to see you. I’m sorry.😢

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sad_watermelon in reply toCLB1125

Maybe you're right... but it hurts really bad 😔

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CLB1125 in reply tosad_watermelon

Yes Im sure it does. Try filling your free time getting ready to go to school. Spend time with the people that love you.

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