give to loose?

[yellowbee4]

why is it that when I'm trying to be enough for the people I love, they ignore everything positive I do, to only focus on random negatives. And then when I stop trying by removing myself so I'm not in their way, I'm labeled as "moody" - "b*tchy" - or "angry"? Even when I literally do nothing? Why am I such a problem? or at least why am I treated as such?

[Yamagata]

I'm sorry your family isn't being supportive. Many people including myself get stuck focusing on the negative. I'm sure your family loves you, but they may be hurt or disappointed. I would probably keep trying to make an effort with your family. It can be hard, I have strained relationships with my family that I have left. You aren't a problem though, you're human. We all mess up from time to time. Maybe talk to them about how your feeling when you're ready.

[Kat_21]

Hi! My family, especially my mom, was one of those people who only saw the negative. I did something almost 10 years ago that she still brings up today. She never appreciated me stepping up when her husband cheated and left her with a 6month old down syndrome baby, she didn't appreciate me babysitting him and my other siblings for her, and every time I removed myself from the situation, she would act like I was a bad person because I left them behind.

What I learned is this : some people will never be satisfied, no matter how much good you do. My mom resented me a lot, and that's why she acted that way.

My advice, if you can, is to remove yourself from them until they decide they are ready to love and accept you, mistakes and all. It's one thing to be disappointed and upset, but when it's constantly putting you in a position to not feel like you'll ever be good enough, that's too far.

If you can't leave the situation, try talking it out. If that doesn't work then unfortunately, you'll have to just put up with it until you can move on from the situation.

I'm so sorry you're going through this, and I hope it does get better. I'm here if you need a friend.

[Ladybug9]

This doesn't sound like "your issue" but more of "their issues". I'm sorry they are disregarding your positives and not being sensitive to the things that hurt you.

[Hidden]

Almost no one is ever in sync. I (like you) have that issue with my sister. We both suffer from our own unique demons(mental health Issues) and we can't quite seem to be on the same page if ever. I have for the most part try to always be the good guy and though it is wrong, I sacrifice my own sake for hers. I hope you don't share that quality as it can be self destructive. Still you care for other and that is good. Just remember that when you do this you can't expect them to kind or grateful at the moment, as for them emotionally, that may come later for them to be kind to you. Always be kind knowing that others may not reciprocate. They might later if they are considerate, but not all people are. You won't be so disappointed this way. I tend to believe others will be kind at some point, but so few are. Others carry their own baggage and it is NOT a reflection of you. It sucks, but it's the price of being empathetic to others. I figure you must not like conflict, hence you move away, but others may need communicate more and get frustrated. Hence the labeling they may place on you. Just keep an open mind that if they are not kind back then it's more about where they are (state of mind) at the moment. You do have the right to speak your mind even if they don't like what you have to say. It's all about communicating in a healthy way to meet your needs and hopefully theirs too. Just some thoughts I think. I may or may not be in the ball park, but that's what I have observed in others. Just be kind to yourself.