New here--not feeling well

[Emjk]

Hi. I'm new here to this, so bare with me. I feel like a failure. I feel like I let everyone down. This weekend was awful, I know I should learn to control my anxiety and depression but sometimes it gets the best of me and I can't control it. I'm in danger of not promoting on time, I'm stressed about finding a job, my boyfriend and I got into a fight and it's spilling over into today, and I just don't know what to do. I dug my nails into my skin yesterday when I was in the bathroom. I guess I need help with learning how to not do that and have better solutions. I didn't sleep well last night because I was crying. I just need help...I was listening to calming music yesterday and that made me feel a little better but I was still anxious and depressed. I just don't know what happened this weekend. I think when I get home from work, I'm going to watch a movie and try and calm down.

[Ilovepugs123]

I have anxiety and Depression too, I highly recommend going for walks and listening to calm music. I know its very hard to control your anxiety and Depression but if its really bad I High recommend seeing a therapist, I am in therapy for my anxiety and Depression and it helps a lot. Don't stress about trying to find a job right now, your not the only one who is having a hard time find a job right now, I know I have had a very hard time find a job too, but remember your not alone. With your boyfriend, give him time and space and when you guys are ready to have a conversation without arguing then try again on fixing things but if you guys keep arguing it is not gonna be healthy for you or your anxiety it is going to make it worse. If you ever need anyone to talk, you can always message me on the website and I can try my best to help you.

[Emjk in reply to Ilovepugs123]

Thank you so much. It's nice to know I'm not alone in these types of situations. I usually listen to calming music and go for a walk but yesterday and on Saturday it wasn't really doing anything for me and it made it worse. I write in a journal most days and I just started online counseling. Hopefully that helps me. My boyfriend and I get through our fights but I just don't want him to be unhappy with me.

[Hidden in reply to Emjk]

Your boyfriend should be supportive to you through the low's and if he's not then maybe it's time to think about whether you want to be with him for life. (If that's a plan)

We need that supportive partner or spouse.

I'm diagnosed with anxiety and depression too and just joined today. It's a struggle for sure. Sometimes I don't want to get up I want to bury my head. People who are diagnosed with depression and/or anxiety are not worthless or failures. We did not ask for this. Like previously mentioned therapy, calming music, meditation, yoga, walking, hobbies can all help decrease some symptoms to make things more bearable. I like taking a ride by myself and listen to music. It's one of my favorite things to do. Nowhere to go but someplace pretty and sing on the way.

[Emjk in reply to Hidden]

I used to drive around a night listening to music but then I found out that gas is expensive. I've felt anxious and depressed for the past 3 days now and idk why it's not stopping. It usually does and then I'm fine.

[Hidden in reply to Emjk]

Driving to a pretty spot instead of continuous driving is also good. I usually drive to the beach and plug ear buds in.

[Ilovepugs123 in reply to Emjk]

I agree with Kayteekins, your boyfriend is suppose to be there for you and help you with whats going on with your life but if he isn't doing that and hes causing more anxiety on you that isn't good, you should really talk to him about how you are feeling and what you want from him and if he doesn't get it or welling to change for you then he is not the guy for you sadly. You want a guy who can help you get through the hard times and not cause the hard times. You want someone who is going to stop what they are doing and help you. it sounds like maybe your boyfriend isn't understand where you are coming from and maybe he doesnt know what to do so he just doesn't care but If I was you I would talk to him and if you feel like hes not understanding you or you feel like your not getting anywhere with him then really think about what you want to do next, but you do deserve some one who is going to be there.