Blatant honesty

I know this is a support forum, and that we all kind of help each other here, but do you guys ever feel like you're not being authentic? Cause I can be nice, and what not but in all honesty I can be a total B**** too. So I'm not even sure which one is the real me anymore... I guess I'm just to a point where I don't care anymore. I constantly feel like my problems are small compared to others, yet I've been in some pretty effed up situations. Some of which were the results of my own actions and some of which were not. Either way I guess I'm just tired of being nice.

[Hidden]

Yea I know what you mean. You cant really be truly authentic all the time because it's easy to hurt someone that way. You've got to sometimes be polite when you just want to tell the person how it is. That's just how society works. I guess it's a good thing but it takes a lot of energy out of you. We can all be total Bs but it's usually useless and harmful to take it out on someone else. We've got to find better ways to let out frustration. I know it's tough though, mistakes will be made. If something is causing you problems then it doesnt matter how big or small it is compared to others. It's still a big or small problem to you.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

It's not that I want to take it out on people but more like I'm ready to just give back what I've been getting, I guess. I've tried to be the one to keep my mouth closed and not stir the pot but at the same time that seems to be more detrimental to my mental health than just speaking up. And since most people I encounter aren't worried about me, or what their actions do to others, in this situation, me, then I'm kinda trying to figure out why I should care about what I do to them with my words or actions. I can honestly say I know I can be petty but I also know that some people need to have their stuff handed right on back to 'em. I do appreciate your insight to this, I'm glad you're still around this site. I feel walked all over and have most of my life, now my view could be wrong, after all I'm human. But in all honesty this is me now standing up for me. I'm the type to let stuff build and push it away like it never happened. And now all that is coming to the surface, and I can't say I'm upset about it anymore. I'm glad you're in a good place Slushy, hopefully one day we all will get there

[Impermanence]

I feel like I am just in a lot similar situation as you said ..in many way..especially I dont care any more...

[Hidden in reply to Impermanence]

Yeah, now that I'm at that point it's freeing in a way... But probably not a way it should be because now I just don't care about what I say or how I say it. How has not caring affected your life? Because sadly I've gotten better results not caring than I had when I actually gave a crap

[Hidden]

I am too crass and it gets me into trouble.

I have a short fuse. And no time.

I always feel fake!

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

My mouth is always getting me into trouble.

[enigmaticide]

I always lean toward honest, which is why my followers can sometimes lean toward sardonic in nature. You do no one favors by pulling punches.

[Hidden in reply to enigmaticide]

Agree completely. I am honest and appreciate it when people are the same with me. My problem is however, that when I'm ticked I'm painfully honest. It's horrible. I just wish I was nicer sometimes

[enigmaticide]

Painfully honest is THE BEST KIND! My favorite thought process is, I could lie, but why would I... when the truth is SO much more painful?

[Hidden in reply to enigmaticide]

I really feel like I laughed too hard at this 😂😂 but it is true the truth can hurt wayyyyyy more than a lie depending on the situation

[enigmaticide in reply to Hidden]

In all fairness using truth as a weapon means that someone TRULY went out of their way to hurt me; I'm not an unprincipled monster.

[Hidden in reply to enigmaticide]

Yeah, I don't use it as a weapon but more of a "I'm done with your bs so I'll call it like I see it at this point". No need to sugar coat it.

[enigmaticide in reply to Hidden]

A reasonable response; it bares similarities to my earlier sentiment though, as I'm sure you are aware, the devil is always in the details or, in this case, the execution.