Feeling unloved

[Glitter28]

I have had plenty of days here lately to where I feel like none of my family or friends and even spouse doesn’t want to talk to me or listen when I desperately need someone to talk to! I don’t try to bring in my problems just a simple conversation on how their day went and just life in general. I know they have their own lives like I have mine but me and my spouse has been through hell this past month with life and our relationship. I feel like he sticks around just for the baby we have together and I have been there and tried to be supportive and loving and he told me today he feels unloved which hurts me cause I do love him a lot and I don’t want him to feel that way and I don’t know what I’ve done to make him feel that way. Maybe I’m just over thinking and it’s my OCD. I feel like I’m alone and the one unloved.

[Hidden]

Have you tried having a talk with him about how you’re feeling with everything? If not maybe you should! communication is key in a relationship but also if you ever need someone to listen to just to talk to feel free to PM me! I’m here for you ❤️ YOU ARE LOVED!

[Glitter28 in reply to Hidden]

Yes I did talk to him and of course it goes back to it being my fault and a waste of his time. It hurts to hear that! I just sat in the bathroom and cried cause how can u say u love someone and then say that. I believe actions over words. Words don’t mean shit unless actions match what they say! I’m miserable over here 😩

[Hidden in reply to Glitter28]

I definitely have to agree with you! Words don’t mean anything unless they show it through their actions. Maybe try telling him that? I don’t think it’s your fault so don’t blame yourself. It sucks I know. I’ve been going through this with my boyfriend! When he’s frustrated he sometimes says things without thinking, it gets annoying but I think we all say things like that when we’re frustrated/upset but then again there still is no excuse for that and he always seems to make one 🙄

[hypercat54]

I wonder if he feels 'jealous' of the baby and the time and attention you give to him/her. If he does try and get him involved more. It can be hard for a man to adjust to going from a couple to 3 of you and the loss of freedom it entails. Good luck.

[TexasTheDog]

Does he ever give you a reason as to why he feels you dont love him? My SO does the same thing and it can be frustrating because I know I love her very much and do what i can to show it. Like a few other people have said communication is key. However if he doesn't want to talk about it right away dont pressure him. This could cause more stress on the relationship and on you. Just remember to always take a step back and breathe when it get to be too much. It doesn't always help but it's a starting place

[Glitter28 in reply to TexasTheDog]

He usually don’t I guess he was just in his feelings but today he’s all fine. He’s confusing but I don’t pressure him cause u can’t force something out of someone.