Am I truly a good person?

[Lindsey14]

I got to reading an article on being a good person and it made me feel kinda bad. One thing was always kind to family and people. Me and my mom tend to butt heads a lot, maybe it's cause im barely out of teenage years or we are just so similar. Or maybe im just a mean person.

Also talked about being good and kind to everyone. I try but then my anxiety/depression/ocd tells me why do i care? Maybe it is mental illness or maybe im a bad person

Idk anymore. Can't tell if im a good person with mental illness or a mean,bad person.

[Pieces99]

There is no good or a bad person, there is both good and bad aspects in a person. Hell I say shit to my mom too, and I surely did a lot to make my parents lives hell.. But they still love me and I love them. Yeah, depression/anxiety/ ocd tells you things but the end decision is yours truly. So keep hanging on and don't let depression/anxiety/ocd to cloud your judgement. Hope this would be some help.

[Lindsey14 in reply to Pieces99]

Thank you❤❤

[Hidden]

Your mental illness had you convinced somehow you needed to read an article so that you would question rather you are bad or good. You know who you are inspite of mental illness, but mental illness can distort our thinking and question everything.. This is where therapy will help you.

Do a self exercise, ask yourself and with serious conviction if you feel you treat people badly, or that you behave as to act with malice and to hurt others? Not getting along with someone happens all the time, personalities clash, this I'd neither good or bad.

[Lindsey14 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you so much, I appreciate this

[Hidden]

Dont worry about being good or bad. You have to get well first. Mentally ill people will act in ways that reflect their illness. It doesnt make you good or bad though. When I was suffering more with my illness my actions were much different. I had less capacity to care about others and it used to make me feel like I was a bad person but I realized it was all just silly when I started getting well, and I started caring more about others and society. I became more sensitive to everything as my seretonin levels were rising. So just put all your energy into getting better and you will see all of those negative qualities you dont like disappearing.

[Lindsey14 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you!

[Hidden in reply to Lindsey14]

No problem 🙂

[pink318]

Hi Lindsey,

I have a sister who was diagnosed with anxiety and I noticed that her attitude changed a lot. She used to be nice and caring to us and then she became self-centered and sometimes mean. I think that’s because of her anxiety. But now that she’s getting better, she is starting to go back to her old self, caring and nice.

I hope you get better soon. Thank you for sharing and please keep us posted. I hope you will find comfort here. God bless.

[Lindsey14 in reply to pink318]

I don't want to be mean or self centered

[pink318 in reply to Lindsey14]

My sister refused treatments, I think that’s the reason why she was mean and self- centered but it didn’t last. She has a support group that’s very helpful to her.

Her mood improved a lot.

Take care, God bless.

[san_ray70 in reply to pink318]

My sister and I used to be very close, my mum was ill. She had dementia, my brother and I wanted her to go in a home. My sister took her to her place, but as she still worked, mum was on her own a lot. When my brother visited my mum she was upset because she saw nobody all day and then my sister ignored her at night. Her excuse was she talked all day and wanted peace at night. We got mum in a home, she lived ther for a few months then she died. My sister thought if she had stayed with her she would still be alive. At my mums funeral my sister ignored me and my brother also my husband. I tried to hug her but she walked away. That hurt but I still called her on her birthday, she put the phone down on me.

[Hidden]

No I am not