Feeling Heartbroken...:'(

[AmOUSe3]

Hi..I'm new here....Why does it feel so impossible to let go? I dated someone online for 3 years, and we broke up months ago. I've been in a lot of pain since then. I lost weight, I'm suffering chronic pains and I have nightmares. I've been depressed and now this is the fourth year. And I can't move on. I hurt someone I cared about, I'm hurting my friends, and I'm hurting myself. I can't forgive myself from the break-up and I feel unlovable and impossible. I turn ignorant because I even hurt people without realizing as I trap myself in my own world full of struggle and self-hate. This is killing me and I don't know where else to go from here.

[red_door]

We're so glad you're here with us. I'm so sorry that you're going through a difficult time. Breakups are painful, but please know there is a light after the grieving.

What I found helpful for me was some free breathing or soft movement exercises on YouTube, either through yoga or meditation that is specially for sadness and depression. Here's a really good one, below. I hope this gives you some comfort today. Please remember that you are so important and worthy of love, no matter what. And you will get through this. Please hang in there, love.

Youtube search: Yoga For Grief | Yoga With Adriene

youtube.com/watch?v=iEVn59U...(Not working as expected?)

[AmOUSe3 in reply to red_door]

Thank you.

[AmOUSe3 in reply to AmOUSe3]

I will try this.

[Freedom57]

You've been suffering for too long. I can relate to your emotional pain. I left my second husband for the third time 3 months ago

I was doing better before the isolation, I bet this is also making you feel worse too

I have never felt the intense pain I have in the past two weeks. My counselor thinks it might be that I'm not disassociating as much now...

Be kind, and gentle with yourself. We don't get to change the past unfortunately, and must live for today one step at a time.

Sometimes love isn't enough to keep a relationship together even if you didn't mess it up. ( my situation )

Sending you a big hug 🤗

[AmOUSe3 in reply to Freedom57]

Thank you. I'm trying..

[Hidden]

Look after yourself and less worrying about other people - they will be fine

[Hidden]

Hey, I’ve been in a similar place before. Heartbreak is so dang hard to go through but it takes time to heal and please allow yourself to have that time.

Pleas know you can move on and you can feel better. I know everything feels hopeless and you feel like you can’t go on but trust me YOU ARE SO STRONG! Don’t lock yourself in a room all day and think about your breakup, go out with friends or family and have a good time and think about the positive things in life !!

You have overcome so much in your life so why don’t you think you can not overcome this?

I say starting to love yourself is the first step ❤️ it’s going to take time.

[AmOUSe3 in reply to Hidden]

I c an't go out covid ty for your kind words <3

[Hidden in reply to AmOUSe3]

Can you maybe call a friend or Facetime then? Try going for a walk 😊

[AmOUSe3 in reply to Hidden]

I have no friends. Sorry, I go through social anxiety disorder. It's just been me and my sisters my whole life.

[AmOUSe3 in reply to Hidden]

I'll try walk though. Just been worried about covid. But I guess sitting out at my porch too will be fine.