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Would change make you feel like this?

Mia898
Mia898

I am just about to buy a house and move . I feel so odd meaning sore throat and tired . I just worry if I cannot pay the mortgage and get unwell . Is this normal or am I a bit odd?

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Change is scary

Mia898
Mia898 in reply to Thetealharp

I feel that I feel so sick starting to feel mad . I do want a house but just scary .

Thetealharp
Thetealharp in reply to Mia898

It's can be exhausting being anxious, and can make you feel sick. You body is probably feed up of being in fight and flight so much,

Mia898
Mia898 in reply to Thetealharp

I have had 2 years of hell so the house will be the start of new .. Happy and place to heal ... I should not worry everything will be fine but a bit of a worry all is going faster than I thought ... Plan in my head things moving faster than it ... Puts me in panic.

Thetealharp
Thetealharp in reply to Mia898

It's good you are getting a new start, it can be hard to process change, the to give yourself the time and space to be able to do that. I know the feeling very well.

Mia898
Mia898 in reply to Thetealharp

I hope the house will bring positive and a new start and maybe relationship who knows but happy life and not to feel unwell . Did you get a new start have you been in my shoes ?

Thetealharp
Thetealharp in reply to Mia898

I relate to the struggle with change and that kinda thing, even when it's good change

Mia898
Mia898 in reply to Thetealharp

Glad it is not only me . I will get there ! :)

I agree with everyone. Change is definitely scary! For the last 5 years I've wanted to move out of state and start over new but the thought of uprooting and moving away from my family and having to find another job, that probably wont pay as good or have as good of benefits as the one I have now has held me back. Scared I won't like it and would have lost everything for no reason.

Mia898
Mia898 in reply to Snicki123

You should try moving if it will make you happy if not just be grateful for what you have :)

Hidden
Hidden

I was going to start with a joke, but am not sure if it'd go over well. Want to hear it?

What you are feeling is perfectly normal. Change can be incredibly scary! For me the bigger the change, the scarier it is. 8 years ago my husband came back to our Houston home with the announcement that, when work asked his unit who would be interested in moving to the Norwegian headquarters, he said he would. We were both initially ecstatic, but then it hit me especially how much preparation was actually involved. Amongst everything else we had to sell our house, find a good storage place and have everything moved there, say goodbye to everything we knew, etc. Although it's been 8 years, I unfortunately remember how the journey through the multiple airports were. I had an unbelievable worryache (stomachache) throughout the day. I remember losing count of the number of times I keeled over clutching my stomach. Although I sure felt like it, I never actually got sick. I was just soooo worried. We were making a huuugge change.

It took awhile to get comfortable, but we got to really like it here. For us, it was a change for the better.

I hope yours is a change for the better too. Please don't worry about the "what-ifs" (what if I can't make the mortgage payments, etc). Worrying about the future doesn't help. Have faith that things will work out.😊

Mia898
Mia898 in reply to Hidden

Go for joke I am laughing not worried :)

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Mia898

Normal or a bit odd? Definitely a bit odd. Why are you so odd, Mia??

Mia898
Mia898 in reply to Hidden

I am crying with laughter I am odd one of a kind never get another one of me :)

Only joking are you normal or odd? Best people are odd and different . I have no fashion style :)

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Mia898

Oh, I'm totally normal. Nothing odd here.😂

Mia898
Mia898 in reply to Hidden

Normal is lovely to :)

Everyone worries about things like that so you are not odd at all.

That’s Normal, that’s the Biggest purchase you’ll ever make. It’s called buyers ‘Remorse’. I get that way sometimes even if I buy myself something I Need, thinking should I have bought it? And even sometimes returning it? I’m sure you’ll be Fine or the bank wouldn’t have approved the loan. 🙏

When going through something stressful, such as buying a house, the immune system does get weaker which can bring on illnesses or symptoms of being ill. That is totally normal.

I need to start taking the vitamins maybe?

Choose to stop the fear thoughts and trust that God will take care of you. That is a big step you took! Give yourself credit that you will continue to have the courage & wisdom to make wise decisions.👍💗✌

Mia898
Mia898 in reply to Tara52

I just tell myself I will be fine after the change . Feeling better more positive . After first night I should be good. Just worry about getting sick but a bucket just in case should be fine .

I remember being terrified when we bought our house back in 2000. I thought I bought at the top of the market and the price would go down but instead my house is now worth 4 times as much as I paid for it and I Thank God I bought it. Not saying that will happen for you but Real Estate can be a great investment over the long term

Mia898
Mia898 in reply to Holaaaa

Any property brought is a amazing investment .

This is very normal. I will pray that God gives you peace about this and know that He is your provider and that ALL things come from Him. Rest in assurance that He will always provide for you.

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