Does anyone if you go to church feel like if your not there or gone nobody would miss you?

[Country101]

I'm a member of a large 2,000 + people church and am all alone I feel like a spoke on a wheel if one spoke is gone the wheel will still work. Granted it is a two way street but I'm not outgoing at all I'm just quite nobody know that by looking at me but my health is not good at all outside is good but insides are wore out and people would never believe me only my doctors, I don't want sympathy I just want a friend or someone who cares I get so depressed and down and out with my health there's no place to go around me unless I drive 25 miles or more and that gets old.

I have ddd degenerative disks disease

djd degenerative joint disease

Osteoarthritis

Osteoporosis

Neuropathy in my hands and feet

Vein disease in the veins in my legs the valves in my leg viens don't work good and blood flows backwards.

Severe GERD

There's a lot more but all people will say is you sure look good yea and then the doctors say were going to try to keep you going and that was over 10 years ago. This is depressing and anxiety.

[Dolphin14]

I'm surprised you feel lonely in a church. I would think members would look out for each other. That's a big church though. At least it seems like it to me.

I don't go to church so I probably shouldn't even be responding to your post.

[Country101 in reply to Dolphin14]

Thank you for replying.

[TrustnGod in reply to Dolphin14]

Loneliness occurs everywhere even at churches. Even if members do care and do love you and remind you of that, it’s so easy to get into a mindset of thinking that no one is there for you or loves you. As my therapist would say, our feelings are oftentimes about perception, not reality.

Anxiety and depression are sad sad things.

~Lia

[StayPositive333]

That's a very Big church! Mine only has 2 wheels, about 30 people so we are all needed to contribute to where i turn down tasks. I am on the Altar Guild and set up the church every weeks. I also help weed and plant in the garden. Reguardless of size there is Always 1 who knows you are there and with HIM.

Do they have a coffee hour after or functions where you can possibly meet others and maybe make friends? Look for apew with others your age and maybe strike a short conversation after the service. A smaller church might be better off there is one nearby.

Remember you are Never alone there

[Country101 in reply to StayPositive333]

Thank you for your words and replying.

[Ollyvie]

Hello Country101,

I can understand how you feel. Unfortunately, a lot of people feel lost too in big churches. Most people have small groups and bible study groups to make you connect. Are you in any group apart from service on Sunday? I know dealing with all this sickness can be overwhelming, but I pray that God sees you through this and heal your body. His grace is sufficient for you and his strength will be made perfect in your weakness. In the meantime, I want you to celebrate the gift of life even though you might be in pain. I believe that the good lord who has started a good work in your life will perfect all things in your life. Also, I pray for the peace of God that surpasses all understanding be your potion in Jesus name. Sending hugs and prayers your way.

[TrustnGod]

Hello country101. I’m so sorry to hear about everything that you have going on. You’re going through so much and having a physical body that doesn’t match what’s really going on is hard to deal with. It seems like maybe you’ve had problems with people saying you’re fine even after you’ve told them your not. Does that bug you because they don’t believe you or have past relationships been ruined because someone wouldn’t believe you?

If you aren’t comfortable answering this for the whole group, my inbox is always open.

~Lia