When you feel like giving up

[sad_dragon]

What are some of the things our members do to get past the "giving up" feeling? When you wake up in the morning and just want to stay in bed, or a task or relationship just seems to be too hard because of the anxiety and depression. How do you keep pushing forward and get through it even if you don't want to? I know the way I deal with it is just getting up and doing it even though I don't want to. But the negativity and thoughts in my head don't go away making the day very difficult and my mood very bad. How do you turn your mindset when the demons inside are raging?

[Hidden]

Try to think of positives! I understand it can be difficult...we can do this !!!! I'm here for you!!! Love & Hugs!!! XXX

[littleturtle]

Hey. Yesterday was tough for me and this morning I was exhausted and did not want to get out of bed at all. I personally weighed the pros and cons of getting out of bed. I decided I might as well try to get through the day because I know for sure that I’ll be miserable if I stay at home lying in bed. I also thought about how I want to work through my condition instead of letting it control me. Sometimes I imagine I am in a dark tunnel and think about how I might as well search for the light at the end of it because I know that if I don’t try then it’s certain I’ll be stuck in the darkness. Stay strong and keep moving forward

[sad_dragon in reply to littleturtle]

That is a good point. Letting the condition control you or controlling the condition. Small victories.

[hypercat54]

I usually get out of bed because I need the toilet or am hungry and think once I am up I will stay up.

When I had to get up in the morning to go to work I would make sure I didn't have to wash my hair or me etc. coz I did it last thing at night. I would debate on how much hassle was it - to get up and go to work, or call in sick when I would be quizzed on it the next day. Normally it was less hassle to go in work!

I also thought how much aggro it would be to lose my job and have no money. It's also awful having to sign on and go through all that job hunting. That was a powerful inducement to go in...

Before I packed in smoking I would get up so I could have a fag, x

[Tedddy]

Just pushing through is sometimes what we have to do. But I also try to give myself permission to take a break or a day off when I need to. Self-care is a HUGE one for me, so I schedule a massage or facial or chiropractic appt so that I can feel more relaxed physically, which helps me psychologically. For me, a therapy session is the biggest help. Especially EMDR sessions.

[sad_dragon in reply to Tedddy]

That's a good suggestion. I can say I normally feel better if I take a day to do what I want versus what has to be done. It's just short lived in most cases.

[Hidden]

What would you do if you didn’t have that feeling? Get up and make coffee and

breakfast for yourself. Enjoy a meal you made especially for yourself to enjoy?? Think about something special you can do for yourself—then do it!!!

[sad_dragon]

I like that. I think I will try that next time.

[sunandbutterflies]

Hello sad dragon,

Having other people around seems to help. Have you been able to see a counselor? Sometimes that is one of the most helpful things-having a support system. Hope that helps. If I will not do something for myself, sometimes knowing that someone else is depending on me helps. Rewards and journaling sometimes too.

[sad_dragon in reply to sunandbutterflies]

Hi sunandbutterflies. Yes I have been to counseling. I have had three different counselors in the last few years all with their pros and cons. The last one I saw basically told me I was going through a phase in life, I am already self aware of myself and the things I need to do, and that there wasn't much he could do to help other than just listen. Being able to say the things that are on my mind does help; but at the same time I feel that I need that conversation too.

[sunandbutterflies]

Hello Sad dragon, I am glad that you have been to counseling. Sorry that you did not have a better experience. It took me a long time to see a counselor after one told me that I did not have any problems. (Bologna!) Maybe it is a matter of finding the right one? Do things like exercising, volunteering, or journaling help?

[IChoose]

Reach out to supportive people. I can't go it alone!