In the past period, or maybe my whole life, I'm feeling lonely without any support any hopes any dreams...
My life is just an empty mess..I don't know what to do with my life I don't know what CAN I do, im just lost in the nothingness... I'm tired extremely tired ..I don't know how to overcome this.
I call it despair. Too much, too fast, too overwhelming, too sad. I am sorry you feel that way. Do you do things that make you happy? Do you have friends you can talk to? This is a weird world we are in right now , if you don’t know what you want, start with what you know you don’t want. Go from there. All souls are special, so are you
I know people as friends, but there's no one of that I feel comfort and reliefed to talk with. They're just busy with their lives and I can't find topics to talk about with them ,their thoughts are completely different from mine. besides, they have their families support which made them strong from their childhood, mine don't feel me. I'm mainly silent with all people even my family because no one gets me or tries to...
I understand completely! I have friends but not people I can talk too. When I try to talk to that one friend, she is busy with her life with her family. I don’t have very good luck with friendship I feel! I always wished I had a sister!
You can talk to me, consider me as your sister.. I'll be here for you...
I actually have 3 sisters but they all married and much older than me
Yes it’s hard to talk to people who don’t get it. I agree with you. I never really hang out with people because they truly don’t know me. Only what I show them. I have to wear so many masks. It can get tiring. I have my good days but bad days too. I try to enjoy the good moments when I can catch them though
I agree!
Food for thought...I’m sorry I not trying to sound harsh or mean...Pity is the last thing you need. That will only make you feel worse and add fuel to the fire. And keep you in that state of mind. I know what depression and and anxiety feels like. I been experiencing high anxiety myself. And last thing I get sick and tired of is people telling me they feel sorry for me. For me personally it creates it “Victim mentality “ which I’m not . We are quite resilient people we already made it this far and deal with a lot of stuff . Feeling empty is a sign subconscious I believe is trying to get a void filled by someone else. A technique you could try is the 5-4-3-2-1 method
Look around whatever room your in and what 5 things do you notice around you Name them. Than what 4 then four things can you touch and touch them, what 3 things can you hear 2 things smell , and one1 thing you can taste. Pay attention and you all your senses . This is a grounding technique. Hope any of this helps .
I've never seen this technique. Thank you.
Your welcome and I use one hand and count them on my fingers as I go to make sure I’m not over counting . Does that that make sense ?
Count each one on a finger to cross them off as I go
What is this technique for? How does it help? Can you explain mire about it?
Well it helps with anxiety but also gets you out of whatever state of mind your in for me personally. And you can practice even when your not in that state it really does help me . Like right now. I see 1. A bed 2. My dog 3. Lamp. 4. Curtains 5. A book ... now I just forgot what was on my mind a second ago
Thank you! I will try that! I will try anything.
This lady has a great podcast called Self work but I think you can look her by name drmargaretrutherford.com/.... She might be very beneficial to you.. I listen to her podcast all the time
Thx a lot, I appreciate it a lot..💐💐
I can partially relate. The first 37 years of my life were great. By the time I was married to my second wife, I had everything a man could wish for or hope for, I was blessed, and I knew it. Then she left and I fell apart, climbed in a bottle, and quit doing life. I've basically been very isolated the last 13 years because of my depression. I'm out of touch. I know exactly what it's like to be around 'heathy' people and not know what they're talking about or what to say, because I have virtually nothing to say but groans of despair. You're probably already a good listener, but I would say when you are around others, make it a practice to try to tune into what they are saying and ask a question or two periodically. Don't worry about feeling dumb or useless. Being a sensitive listener is one of the greatest qualities a person can have. Listening with genuine interest is an act of affection. As to the part about them understanding, give some though as to exactly what you want them to understand. Think really hard. Then write it down. Then pray about whether or not and with whom to share this with. Ours is an invisible disease; you can't diagnose it by looking at us. They may not even be aware of the degree of your suffering. Maybe it's time to start speaking up for yourself. Ask for what you need. You may not get it, but the act alone will empower you. Brace yourself for some rejection or inaction. Healthy people who have never felt this way CANT relate, so they don't always know what to do or say. That's your job; reaching out. At least give people the chance to be of help. Best wishes.
You're exactly right. You said my exact feelings. I'm only 22 years old but I'm having a lot of pressure from family problems to university problems they got me real bad.
I really hope you take my suggestion and write everything down. Write it as if you were trying to inform somebody about something. I have done this my self (its 7 type pages long) and have given it to some people hoping for guidance, or at least recognition. Writing it all out also helps have some perspective. Best of luck to you.
Write about what for example??
Most of the time when I'm in a situation that I don't like or uncomfortable one, I just don't say anything I don't think in the same exact moment, after a while when it's ended I think of something that I should have said to defend my self or express my feelings but I wasn't able to think of it when it's needed. Then I get angry and annoyed that I haven't done anything about it...
That is me too!!!
Pretend you are writing to a friend and trying to describe what your life is like today. You already did it in your response to me by explaining what happens when you get together with people. Just like that. Make a project of it. Write some things down, then set it aside for a day or two. In the meantime, something else will come up so write that down too. Try to think of conveying to someone else what your life is like, and maybe even the ways you wish it were different. The point is getting down on paper. What you do with it after that is up to you; I'm sending mine to people I know care about me because I feel a need to be understood, and I'm looking for help.
I think I'm just giving up now
My anxiety is kicking in
I wish it would end
New poster here. Need some anxiety help