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Depression, Anxiety and Lonliness.

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I'm just so sad and depressed and being alone makes it so hard. I literally feel like I'm dying from the inside out. So tired of feeling this way everyday of my life. My family does not understand the pain that depression and anxiety causes. Last winter was the worst depression I had in long while. I tried to reach out to my family for comfort, just to feel understood and loved but not one cared, not even a phone call when they knew I was suffering horribly. I don't even bother to let my family know any longer as they will just dismiss my feelings. They truly don't want to be bothered, not even my one and only son who lives just three short blocks from me. It just hurts. I truly pray numerous time throughout my day for some relief and to feel care free and happy like everyone else. I do take an anti depressant but it only masks my pain. I also work and take care of the elderly during their last days on earth. They do lift my spirits with their love and wisdom. Thanks for listening, I just needed to vent in hopes someone listened. I pray everyone has a Blessed Thanksgiving and Holiday Season.

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Those who never had depression will never understand even if they try...holidays makes us all a little down..you have a truly blessed and special job,and you make a difference in people's lives always remember that.Wish I lived near you,I would be your friend for sure,hugs dear and stay strong

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Thank YOU SO much for your kind and comforting words, just to know that you cared enough to respond means so very much. Yes, my job is such a BLESSING and I know Jesus put me in this position to help the elderly in their last days. My focus each day is to do what Jesus would do by caring for people who can't help themselves. They tell me each day they love me and I always and longingly tell them the same with a sincere hug and kiss on their precious cheek. So I am so very Blessed in that respect. I pray everyday for their salvation, Comfort and Peace as I read scripture to them and with them. Jesus is so GOOD. I pray someday he will lift my depression, pain and suffering of my own, but I also try to understand maybe there is a reason I'm kept in this place. It hurts me to see so many suffer from this disease, and have had close friends take their own lives because of it. It just hurts so deeply. I wished I could have done something to take away their pain so they wouldn't have chosen to take their life. Thank you again for your kind response. I pray that Jesus will Bless you each and every day. Hugs.

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I work with the elderly too so I know how difficult but rewarding it can be..I lost my faith with time but have to say this year I began praying and reading the bible again..it gives me some comfort too.Have you talked openly with your son about how you feel?

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I tried so desperately to talk with him and also to my only sister last winter when my depression was at its worst. I needed them so much and even asked if I could stay with them a couple of days for some comfort and too so I wouldn't have to be alone in my suffering. I actually pleaded with them while trying to stay as humble as possible. My sister finally let me stay, one day, but made me leave the next. My son made excuses that he didn't have room and that he sold his extra beds, which sadly was a lie. Needless, to say it crushed me to the core. I spent endless days and nights isolated, even my Father who I called, said if I kept crying he would hang up on me. I still love them and would help any of them in a heartbeat and i have so many times, but they won't do the same, sadly. I'm working on forgiveness and unconditional love as I know it's important for my well being and also my salvation. How are you doing? Are you doing ok?

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It's so sad when relative's don't understand us,my sister doesn't understand too,she thinks I like to play the victim..that's why sometimes it's easier for me to talk with stranger's.I'm taking one day at a time,picking up the pieces..I learned to cry alone too,I just go to some place to be alone when I need too.You are truly a kind person,struggling but still asking about other's pain..I will keep you in my prayers,remember you are a special person always!hugs!

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I'm literally in tears,reading your comment. You too are such a kind, caring and giving person. So happy to have met you, even if it's online. I feel your pain and I'm so sorry you cry alone, and that your sister doesn't understand. It's so insensitive when the people that are your own flesh and blood don't even care enough to TRY to help or understand the pain of this disease. I've come to realize that some just aren't capable of the same compassion and are to 'self involved to care. I just know I could never ever be like that to anyone, stranger or family. I'm happy you're reading the Bible, Jesus is such a tremendous comfort, just as you have been to me this evening. Thank you kindly. I will always keep you close in my prayers and thank you for doing the same. Please let me know if you need to talk ok? I'm here for you. Hugs

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Metti, and Filmnoir

You are angels on earth. Those who work with the elderly, the disabled, those with special needs are beyond amazing.

I cannot even imagine the strength...or the toll it takes on you.

You are extraordinary people doing incredible things...every day.

Without a doubt, you make a real difference daily.

You matter.

It is an honor.

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Awww, thank you so much for your sweet words. Such a blessing you are. How are you doing?

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I' m ok. I have been working outside this week...clearing land, taking down trees, pulling stumps.

The physical exertion, maybe exhaustion is a better word, helps with eating and sleeping normally.

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You're very welcome. Sounds like you keep very busy, and am happy to hear that it helps with your eating and sleeping. With your busy week, I'm sure you've worked up an appetite for Thanksgiving dinner! :) I hope you enjoy and have a very Blessed day tomorrow and always. Hugs and Blessings to you and yours!

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And you as well ,Metti.

A blessed Thanksgiving to you and your loved ones.

You deserve it.

I hope things get better for you.

I, we, are always here for you.

Lean on me...

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Thank you so much for offering your heart, mind and soul. during my struggles. God Bless You. You are so kind. Hugs and love.

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So sorry you have to go through it. I know how you feel. You're very strong! Yes, you are! Even after not getting support from close people you didn't lose strength. I wish I lived closer to you and helped you with support.

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Thank you for your kindness and for giving me strength to say 'I'm Strong. I truly try my best to be just that, but some days fail me. Wished you lived closer too, as there are no support groups any where near me that offer any support. How are you doing?

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I'm not doing good lately. My depression and anxiety got worse since I lost my father and brother. My father passed away and 3 months later my brother. My family doctor prescribed different medication because the old one stopped working for me. I'm still depressed with new medication but at least my anxiety got better. It so hard to live feeling depressed all the time.

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I'm so sorry you've been struggling and I'm deeply sorry for your losses. It's SO HARD to lose the ones you love. My Mother passed away in 2000 and I STILL think about her EVERY day, she was my rock and also a soft shoulder to lean on where the rest of my family are too self involved to care. I agree, depression is difficult to manage, I hope the new meds work better for you Kat and am happy your anxiety is better. That helps! I take Lorazepam for my anxiety but use it sparingly as it's a controlled drug and is addicting. I wished I could take it every day because it helps calm my anxiety, but won't because of possible addiction. I will be praying for you and will ask for your healing. I'm here if you ever need to talk ok?

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Thank you so much for your kind words and for understanding. It means a lot for me!

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I listened and read your post. This time of year certainly makes depression worse. I understand your feeling lonely. I feel like I am by myself even though I am married. I have no family support. Nobody knows how bad depression is unless they have it. Too many people dismiss it as no big deal. I am also on medication. I was in a group until everyone dropped out and have been looking for another one. I found this site , and everyone seems friendly. I am not a sure about opening up to people I don’t know. But what I do know, it is very helpful to be able to type things out and read them and someone else is reading it. I know for me, having a conversation with someone makes me feel I part of the world. You mentioned praying, I pray all the time for help to get through the day. You have some positives, like your helping people. Helping people makes me feel needed. I do volunteer work but I need more. I hope tomorrow is better for you. If you need someone to talk to, there quit a few of us here who care

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Thank you so much for being there for me and for caring. You are a kind soul. I also hope things get better for you and I will sincerely pray for your healing. If you ever need to talk, I am here and ready to listen. Hugs!

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Thank you. I didn’t expect a rely so soon. There are people hear from all different countries. I find it amazing. We tend to think how bad we have it until we see someone else has it worse. I have been fighting depression for quite sometime, but if I am able to be honest with my self, everybody is battling something. I am hear also if you want to talk about anything, I’m a good listener and don’t give advice unless asked. Sometimes or maybe all the time, you just need to vent, and hope someone listens

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Thank you for your support, and yes it would be great to talk sometime. I am here for you as I understand depression and the importance of being able to talk it through and also the compassion that one needs through difficult days. Yes, there is always someone who has it worse then we do, as we speak, some are taking their last breath, some are fighting horrible deseases, some are lonely and homeless with no one to spend the holidays with, or any day with, for that matter. Some are grieving the loss of a child or loved one, the list is just endless. I feel guilty that I should even feel sad for myself in this moment and I should be counting each blessing one by one and I shall. Thank you kindly for the gentle reminder of how blessed we are in our own way. Hugs and love to you with many heartfelt prayers for you.

Sorry you’re going through this alone. I know how you feel and there’s nothing worse this is not living! I pray you find some comfort soon 💜

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Thank you Julie, I appreciate your concern, prayers and kindness. How are you doing? What are your plans for Thankgiving?

Dear Metti: I can completely relate to family not getting it. They just think you should be able to snap right out of it. If only I ever heard the words I am here for you or I love you or I know you are struggling it would even help. But we can't control how others behave just ourselves. This time of the year is so very hard. I used to enjoy the holidays but now every year they just make me very sad. I used to work in a nursing home when I was younger. It was one of the most rewarding jobs of my life time. The older generation has so much wisdom and I loved them all. Yes, of course it was heartbreaking at times. It is not easy for them to be in a nursing home. None of them really want it. But the ones who adjust and made the most of it always served as great inspiration to me and I would always try to bring a smile to their faces. I am sorry you are going through this. You answered my post and it sounds like we are both having a rough time. Yes if you would like to talk please let me know. Hugs <3

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Thank you Butterfly. Yes, it sounds like times are rough for both of us, but I am, at the very least, grateful for you, your understanding and kindness. I am sending my love and friendship to you and am here for you always. Keep me posted on how you are doing, ok? I truly care! Hugs!

Its so nice to see such wonderful ppl around...my lonliness vanished fr smetime...i hv a child...a hubby....bt dey all go to schooks n offices respectively....i am a housewife....want to do something of my own...but im unable 2 do...im alwys scared im lonely in dis world....my parents stay in another city...cant meet dem often. ...my heart cries 2 stay wid den..bt i cnt..even though i hv happiness around me this fear of lonliness is killing me frm inside...dnt knw wts da solution...good luck 2 u

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