My anxiety is taking over my life.

[Matty123321]

My anxiety is getting out of control and I just don't know what to do anymore. Meds don't work, seeking councilling doesn't work for me. My anxiety just seems to have taken over my life at the moment. I haven't left my house for about 9 months now. only time I leave my house is for work because it's something I must do and even then working with people I've worked for years I still have anxiety and panic attacks. I just don't know what to do anymore. I'm new here and just wanted to see what others think that are in the same boat and how they cope with it.I Just feel alone and I don't know what to do anymore.

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Hi there. I’m new on here too. It’s a nightmare this road we are on sometimes isn’t it! My anxiety goes from manageable to very difficult. I’ve found over the past months that if I accept what is going on ‘in the background’ so to speak, and not give the anxiety a big talking to and argue with myself about how I need to control whatever has caused the anxiety at that point, it’s more manageable. When I accept the anxiety and try to get on with my daily life whether that’s washing dishes or heading out the door then it’s do-able. D’you know what I mean? I know that might not seem helpful to you and you may have tried this already. You’re not alone in this. There’s a whole lot of people on here with anxiety I’m sure you could relate to. I wish you well.

[Shield_Of_Faith]

Your not alone man, I've been fighting my anxiety since I was very young, I really rarely go outside because how bad my anxiety is. But if I needed something my brother or a family member will get it for me. I feel embarrassed and worthless practically all the time. I get support from my family but waking up as me being me everyday it's not easy and it takes everything for me to just move forward. So trust me, I get it. But I'm a Christian so I hold onto hope and for the most part God has gotten me through it. I know not everyone is a Christian I'm not trying to force anything on anyone, I'm just saying that through out my life I've seen so many blessings that happen at that exact perfect timing and things I was saved from that could've been worse. But anyway your not alone. My anxiety has been really beating me down for as long as I can remember, even going to sleep crying at night at times. But I guess I hold onto hope in God, support from my family and one day hopefully I beat this anxiety or atleast improve and be stronger. Sorry if I'm going on, my point is trust me I get it and I hope you get better too with time. I hope all the best. 🙏

[LoveforAll41]

Matty, I can empathize. I think I went a month once without leaving my apartment. I may have gone that whole time without a shower as well. It is insane that some days taking a shower gave me overwhelming anxiety, and at times it is nothing. I am so sorry that nothing seems to be working. I applaud you for continuing to work, that is definitely an accomplishment. It is frustrating that some days at work and some days I am anxious and sweaty and wishing people would totally ignore me.

Have you been able to share with people in your life about your anxiety? I find that helps me a lot, and it has helped at work too. I really like Dr David Burns' work for mental health. He has a book called "Feeling Great" that resonates with me. There is a lot of stuff to try. I encourage you to keep going, and you are doing great to reach out.

When I come to this post the "Related Posts" section at the top right has 5 or 6 posts with an almost identical title. Have you read those?

I wish you peace, hope, and perseverance.

[Matty123321 in reply to LoveforAll41]

Thank you for the advice and support means alot. My family know about my anxiety and they help me alot it was my mom who told me about her friend who has anxiety and found talking to people who go through the same thing helpful which is why I joined this group. I am just trying to explore everything to try and help because I know I can't keep letting my anxiety control my life because it's just no life to live like that. I just wanna feel happy even if it's for 5 minutes. I just can't remember the last time I felt like a normal person. I just hate the way my brain works sometimes. I know anxiety is something that I will always have and have to cope with but it's just too much atm I feel like im drowning in my own thoughts and I just don't know what to do anymore.

[LoveforAll41]

I think exploring everything is great. There are endless resources on youtube and books and whatnot. As far as feeling normal for 5 minutes ketamine therapy is now a thing for anxiety/depression. I am not sure what getting access to this in the UK would be like. For me though it is a nice reset. I have compared it to the perspective you get when you have been physically sick for a day or two where you can't do anything but lay in bed then getting better. You realize that health and the simple things are really important.

[Jennblank7734]

I understand what you're going through. I can count on one hand the number of times I've been outside in the last couple years. If you ever need someone to talk to I'm always available. I haven't been treated for social anxiety specifically. I did try some medications this last year for anxiety in general but haven't found any relief. I don't know what I would do if I had to work. I really feel bad that you have to cope with that.

I do find that most of my anxiety is just about getting outside. Once I'm outside I am fine. I don't know if this is common. I've also only been out twice in almost a year, last time was 4 months ago. I'm not sure if it's changed. You said you still have anxiety at work. Does it get better, worse or about the same? Good luck in finding some help. This is no way to live.

[Matty123321 in reply to Jennblank7734]

Ye it's horrible isn't it. I understand that no matter what I do I'm going to have anxiety but it's about being able to control it and not let it control you but I'm just really struggling atm. Exercise used to be a big helper for me in feeling good about myself because I'm really conscious about how I look. But the last year I haven't really been able to do much because of a torn rotator cuff in my shoulder so I cant even exercise so now I've put ok weight it just added massively to my anxiety. It just feels like every step I take in the right direction something comes and makes me take 2 steps back.And when it comes to work my anxiety is still just as bad I wear a smart watch and by the time I get to work my hear rate is at 140 which is over double my normal rate and it doesn't go down for a while and it's only once I put headphones in and just try block everything out I feel its the only thing that gets me through it.