Nothing works. Whether it's dieting, my plans to get the house in order, my goals-NOTHING. I'm not saying that diets don't work. They ALL.do. It's my having no willpower to stay on them that is doing me in. I know HOW to get the house and basement cleaned up. I just don't stick to it. Yesterday one of my dogs got out of the yard. THANK GOD she came back on her own, after going out looking for her. I am VERY THANKFUL for that. But after that, I just got so depressed and really started thinking of my life and how I never have the strength, energy, willpower to follow through with anything. I've been seeing a therapist for about a month now. I may stop him too because it is expensive and I don't have insurance.. This is not a post looking for weight loss suggestions. I've heard them all.and follow none of them. I'm not here looking for suggestions on how to get cleaned up in here. Ive heard and know them all.I'm just so tired. Tired of trying. Tired of failing. I just want to lay on the couch all day and do nothing. Unfortunately, I can't because i have to work. I don't know why I wrote this. Not to get any suggestions from people. I'm done with help. I think sometimes we have to just accept what is, if we are too tired to fight any longer.
I think I'm just giving up now - Anxiety and Depre...
I think I'm just giving up now
Accepting what is can be liberating. Thinking it will never change is the problem. It will change. If you aren't up to big tasks at the moment so be it. Do something little. Seriously - there are a few things that I just keep not doing like sorting a stack of mail sitting beside me right now. If I just open one envelope I stop thinking so negatively about myself. Small steps are steps too -- allow yourself to be where you are right now. Big virtual hug to you.
Thank you. I HAVE BEEN trying. And honestly, I have gotten things done. But not enough. And life and working just derail my plans. No-I'll take that back. I can certainly find more time. But I'm TIRED. I wake up at 6:00 every day for work. I go to bed Wayyy too late. I have too much stuff coming in here and not enough going out, and I have explained before on here that I am in a very small living space for myself. I run a day care upstairs, and that is spacious enough. Not enough closets, not enough cabinets, on and on, and on. I got all excited about the 16:8 diet. It worked GREAT for a few days, then BANG-hunger set in and I gave up. I'm just going to allow myself to "be" for now. Too tired to keep fighting and not getting the results I seek.
The 'not enough sleep' thing is something I'm dealing with as well. Thanks for sharing yourself with us. I'm glad you're here.
And you also!🙂
I can totally relate to everything you said. It is sooooooo frustrating. I have all these plans in my mind yet nothing comes to fruition. I've tried taking "baby steps".....it's just frustrating. I hear your pain. I hope that when you get to work and get occupied you feel a bit better.
Thank you and the same to you!
And don't give up. It's easy to do but I can tell that you are a fighter and you are going to make it.
Thank you, but for now I am just giving up. Too tired ( especially mentally), to keep trying.
I totally get it and it's okay to take a breather. When you're ready, you can ease into things again. And I can relate with the "no space" issue. I live in a 1 bedroom apt in NYC and it's cramped. It drives me crazy sometimes because I want to clean and organize but I don't know how because I don't have anywhere to put it. Anywho, thanks for sharing because now I know I'm not alone with my feelings.
I'm in New York also.
And it’s so beautiful and I had plans of taking my dog to the park and going to the gym but I too am just spent. I’m ordering in and going to rent a movie
The ONLY good thing about living here is that there is a nice big yard for the dogs to play in. The hole that one of them got out of yesterday through the fence was already fixed. What a nightmare. 😰
Well if you know everything about weight loss you must be aware that 'diets' only work as long as you follow them for life. Healthy eating is the way to go, but recognise that you haven't got to give all nice things up as even thin people eat chocolate and cake! Maybe do the healthy eating for 5 days and eat what you want on the other ones? x
Right now, I have no mindset to even try anything else.
I get that too and I am struggling like you. Are you making too many big goals all at once, so how about concentrating on much smaller ones instead? Depression is an illness where there is often no motivation so you have to do something first to try and get motivation. Praise yourself for doing anything even very small as it's such an effort ie when I tell myself off for getting out of bed so late, I automatically follow it with a positive thought such as 'Well done for getting up at all feeling so bad'.
Ok you have to work and I know that takes all your energy but try and do baby steps as this will help you. I am fortunate now as I am retired but when I was working I always made sure I had at least one night out a week even if I didn't enjoy it. To my surprise I usually did if not much. Energy creates energy. x
Yes-I WAS making too many high goals all at once-both with cleaning and dieting. Im an all or nothing person, which does me in. I've tried smaller goals, and it has helped, but just not enough. It also did not help to hear some VERY UNKIND remarks by my ex-husband yesterday when he drove over to help me find my dog. I was just DONE after that.
Well once you make small goals and can do those, then you can make the next ones slightly bigger. It's an ongoing process and a bit is better than none or failing coz you are setting your goals too high. In other words build up the small ones and take your time. Learn some patience! x
But it's like everything is always a mess. To me, my efforts don't even show.
But you know you have done them so praise yourself. How about doing a big job in stages? Go to the basement and just pick up anything which is trash and throw it out. Perhaps do one bag, then leave it. When you feel up to it go back again and throw some more trash away. Small steps lead to big changes if you do them long enough and you will soon notice a difference.
Because of my depression and other health problems I have great problems keeping my home clean and tidy. It is totally a mess and desperately needs sorting out. It seems such a big job but with the support of a lovely friend on here am doing small bits. I am not leaving any more rubbish on the floor but putting it all in carrier bags which I keep at my side, so at least it's not getting any worse. Next I am going to tackle sorting out one corner. One day I will start seeing a big difference but not yet. x
Yes-that's what I did all week, and I definitely got stuff done. But alot if it is stuff I want to keep ( except for the millions of papers I have to go through). That I am saving for last because it is the most time consuming. It's finding the SPACE down there to be able to find things that i need when i need them. It's not just MY stuff, but lots of stuff for the day care that is stored down there. Like extra high chairs, etc. that take up.space. I have an outside shed that is PACKED. I am sure i can make that to have more space, by better organizing it, but it takes time and ENERGY. Lifting heavy boxes, moving them around, etc.
Well it sounds like you are at least fit enough to be able to do this, whereas there is no way I could now. I suffer from chronic back pain among other ills and doing anything is painful. x
I am very sorry to hear that. Do you have anyone to help you?
No. I hate old age 
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Awww-I'm sorry. ☹
When you have achieved your goals would you come and help me please? 
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Well, it's never gonna happen on my part, but if we lived close enough, I'd come and help you anyway.😊
If you are like me you would find it much easier to help others than do your own. I think it's part of 'I am not worth' it. At least it is for me. x
Sigh.......it's just so weird. I have offered to help others organize and straighten things out, and throw things away. and told them things they need to buy, ( like bins and whatnot), but when it comes to myself, I just can't get a handle on it. This IS a very small space though, and Im sure my closet space and shed could be organized better to have more space, but for some reason-I keep banging my head against the wall. Nothing ever changes.
Do you think you are worth it? I have a self care problem where I think it doesn't matter and who cares anyway. It's the nasty old depression talking. x
Yes!! I am worth it!! I know what a good person I am. But I too have struggled with depression, tossed in with OCD. I know this house thing is all part of an OCD problem. Plus I want and need everything to be perfect. If it's not, I am not happy. As i said-I'm either all in or all out. Right now I'm checked out.
Well nothing is perfect. If you got all that done you would still be putting yourself under all that pressure for something else. x
You nailed it perfectly!!
Yep! Did someone in your life teach you that you have to be perfect? I wonder who that was? Is it still valid? x
Honestly-the answer is NO. No one taught me that. It is something I put upon myself. For instance, perfect example-right now I am decorating my day care again for Easter. I started LAST week. It's taking so long because everything has to be planned out, be symmetric, and put EXACTLY in the right spot. That makes me EXTREMELY ANXIOUS. Meanwhile, as I start to do crafts with the kids this week, their crafts will be put on the walls and decorations will have to be moved around anyway. If you saw what I look like every day, you WOULD NOT believe that I came out of the mess that is my house. ( the day care is clean and not like that). My hair is long, curly, always has to look a certain way, nice clothes, make-up, matching earrings, and necklace. Perfection as far as I can take it, but the weight-I just can't conquer. Makes NOOOO SENSE!!!
OCD? x
Yes 😞
Are you working on it? x
Well. it has definitely gotten better throughout the years. But it mostly takes an effect on me in terms of keeping stuff. Hoarding maybe? Yes, but NOT ANYTHING EVEN CLOSE to what you see on the shows. Just WAYYYY TOO MUCH stuff, and no where to put it all at the moment, with living in such a small area. But hopefully, one day, God willing, I will be able to sell the house and the business and buy something else. Like a 2 family house, with my daughter.
Thank you for saying about telling yourself "At least you got out of bed" instead of berating yourself for getting up late. It really helped to hear this, this morning when I just wanted to pull the duvet back over my head
I think we all give our self too many shoulds. There are some days you just don't feel like dealing with trying to do anything. And let yourself have those days. Don't be so hard on yourself you're okay.❤
Good to vent I hear you and you are not alone!
From your lips to my ears. Just sitting in one place and having no desire to do ANYTHING. I have only felt this as strongly as I do in the last few years, but I have no idea how to make it stop. I don't know how to help you, but I understand you completely.
Thank you! Same here-I have only felt this bad, since I had to move into this house I CANNOT STAND. That was in February, 2016. Constantly trying to figure out ways to make things fit. I have SO MUCH stuff and nowhere to put it. If I have to hear one more person say-"Just throw it out, I will scream"!! It's just not a soothing, calm environment. Your home is supposed to be where you feel most at peace. It's not peaceful here. It's claustrophobic and cluttered. I look around, and I feel sick. I try to be out in the yard as much as possible. It did not happen this weekend. Not with temperatures reaching nearly 100 degrees, with a heat index of 110. 🥵🔥🥵🔥
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