I NEED ADVICE!

[My_Heart_Is_Hurting]

I just found out that I have depression, anxiety, and stress. Can someone please help me know what to do next? I haven't told anyone about any of this, so please, help me! I'm so scared! It makes me just want to curl up in a ball and cry.

[NoRegret]

I have nearly the same diagnosis as you and I have found that throughout my life I am best when I am going to counseling and taking medication. I'd say talk with your Dr. for direction and in the meantime.

Stand tall , ears above your shoulders, gaze forward, take a deep breath , turn up the corners of your mouth, and know that there are lots of people who care.... Love you bunches

[My_Heart_Is_Hurting in reply to NoRegret]

Thank you so much for this. It made me feel a little bit better today... and you know how nice that is.

[dglen0826]

I understand and know how lonely it can feel struggling with depression and anxiety. Know that you are not alone and that you have support here in this community of people who understand and can support you!❤️

[My_Heart_Is_Hurting in reply to dglen0826]

Thank you so much for your kind words. This is new and scary territory for me, and people like you who lift me up help so so so much. Thank you!

[dglen0826 in reply to My_Heart_Is_Hurting]

You’re welcome! I’m glad I can help!

[mrhealthanxiety]

Hi and welcome, please try not to be scared as you certainly are not alone. Maybe the next step would be to see your GP / Doc ? Talk it through with them and they may then suggest what to do next, like seeing an anxiety counsellor etc ? I have found from experience they do really help, but please do not keep things to yourself as you have no reason to - talk to friends and family too if you can, sometimes sharing your worries with people helps a lot.

[My_Heart_Is_Hurting in reply to mrhealthanxiety]

Thank you so much for your wonderful advice. It helps a whole lot. Thank you!

[Poodie]

Hi My.

We are here and you are certainly not alone. Seek out therapy and keep posting too.

Take care.

[My_Heart_Is_Hurting in reply to Poodie]

Thank you so so much for your advice and kind words! It means a lot. Thank you! <3

[Amethyst27]

Hey, i was diagnosed with depression and anxiety in oct last year after having a complete melt down. I had always hidden how i felt and did it well to be honest as ive known since i was a teenager that i didn’t feel right. But honestly taking that step to go to the gp was best thing i have done. After starting on medication i couldnt believe how well i felt and didnt realise how bad i was before going to the gp. I had normalised my mental health before my meltdown and once i started to feel better with medication i couldnt understand how id coped so long without! I wanted to die nearly everyday but hadnt made any solid plans on how i was going to do it. I still have bad days but with the help of medication i can see past it abit more now and know that there is better days. I really advise going to a gp and discussing options. I hope this helps! ❤️

[My_Heart_Is_Hurting in reply to Amethyst27]

This really does help, thank you!

[Amethyst27 in reply to My_Heart_Is_Hurting]

I hope you start to feel better soon! X

[Jeff1943]

We can all cope with some anxiety and stress in our life, it's when we reach anxiety overload that our nervous system starts to complain.

So the first thing you must look at is: what is causing you so much anxiety? If you can neutralise that then you've taken a big step towards recovery. The usual causes are over work, disappointment, loss, grief, guilt, toxic relationships, health worries, money worries to name but some.

Seek advice from someone whose judgement you trust if you have difficulty finding a solution. But remember, you may have to be ruthless and prepared for major changes. If you really can't change the cause right now then look at the problem from a different perspective and things may not be as bad as you're seeing them.

Long term stress can cause your nervous system to become over sensitive so suddenly every small problem and obstacle seems ten times worse than it is. You always expect the worst case scenario and this causes more fear which causes more nervous sensitivity which causes more anxiety symptoms which cause more fear which causes more nervous sensitivity.

Your best exit plan is to find a way to stop over-worrying and prevent fear hormones from constantly flooding your nervous system.

You can do this through medication - but this will only mask your symptoms. Or you can try face-to-face counselling using Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.

Whatever you decide you should frame your mind to accept the things you fear, just for the moment. Accept all the symptoms of anxiety and depression because they are only the product of a vivid imagination magnified by over sensitive nerves.

Stop fighting your anxious thoughts and learn to co-exist with them for the moment. This is the meaning of Acceptance.

Finally you must let time pass whilst your over sensitive nerves recover from all that fear hormone you have been flooding them with.

Secondary depression is very common, we get depressed thinking of all the anxiety we have to face, all the problems we have exaggerated beyond reality. Solve your anxiety disorder and the depression should yield.

You are not going to feel like this forever. Through understanding, reassurance and acceptance you will in time recover your quiet mind.

[My_Heart_Is_Hurting]

Thank you so so so much for this awesome information! It really helps!