Cut ties?

[megalae]

I posted this last week about my boyfriend who has severe anxiety, uses anti-anxiety medication, and drinks way too much.

I decided to mention my concerns to him on Friday evening. I came from pure love and concern. I was very careful about my wording and tone. It was, of course, bad timing as he had a stressful day at work and was already 5 beers deep by that time. He walked in with a case of beer.

He got upset. Told me I was attacking. Opened his iPad and started playing poker until 3 a.m. I went to bed alone. He woke up at noon and glued himself to his phone and beer. When he was too anxious to leave the house to go get more beer, he asked me to go. I told him I didn’t want to go get more beer but i’d love to go on a walk together or hike, spend time with him. He then packed up his stuff and left. I asked for a hug as he was backing out, he told me it was raining so no.

I blocked his number at this point. 6 p.m. rolls around last night and I get an email titled “knew it”. The contents of that email? “Knew you were sleeping around. Knew it!” I didn’t reply. For the record, no I’m not nor have I ever. What is happening right now?!

I guess I’m debating on whether to respond. That was hurtful and he knows better.

[Alabi]

Hey....sorry about that

Since it's a relationship issue as a result .....you need to understand why he thinks you are sleeping around....try to figure out why he would think you are sleeping around...if you find the reason then you mayy get an idea of how to resolve the problem....he's suspicion increases he's anxiety....so for now try to figure that out first

[megalae in reply to Alabi]

I don’t even think he’s clear enough to give an explanation.

[kenster1]

his head will be scrambled with the mixing of meds/alcohol what is he like without a drink.he might be paranoid coming round from a night on the alcohol but its no excuse.its clear his actions are brining you down and you have to think of yourself.

[megalae in reply to kenster1]

His head is clearly scrambled and has been for some time.

[Agora1 in reply to megalae]

megalae, unfortunately alcohol seems to be your bf's love. He can't possibly think

straight with the amount he is consuming each day. As well as adding antianxiety

meds to the issue, it is a dangerous situation waiting to happen.

If he won't go for help, then it is a good idea for you to attend some Al-anon meetings

met for partners and spouses of the alcoholic. You're up against a tough fight. xx

[megalae in reply to Agora1]

You should’ve seen his face when I expressed my love and concern for his drinking. I may as well have walked up and slapped him in the face. He was so upset with me. When I cried he refused to look at me. Asked me to “walk away” in my own house. I bucked up on that one and told him not to speak to me that way in my own house. I bucked up again and refused to get his beer.

That email. That gets under my skin.

[Agora1 in reply to megalae]

megalae, you may not be able to do anything for him since he is going

to want the help. However, take care of yourself. Don't allow his actions

affect your reactions. We're here for you. xx

[LilyAnnepuppy]

Alanon

[hypercat54]

He is hurt so he is lashing out at you back, that's all. His ego is hurt and we women all know what a fragile thing that can be! To be honest it sounds like you are well rid as he is clearing blaming you for his own behaviour. Do you want to be with a man who refuses to take responsibility for himself? I know I wouldn't but it is your choice at the of the day to decide whether your relationship is worth it. Take care'