Beyond the 4 corners of abuse

[shecan]

I am not sure why we cannot let go of childhood sexual abuse. The triggers lat a lifetime. I just want to put on new skin and move on .

[shay8blue]

Just know everyone with similar experiences feel the same way. It's not something you can just get over sadly. Stay strong you will get through this stronger than ever!❤

[Hidden]

Same has happen to me with abuse it stays with you, maybe if we had support from our family ,it won’t be so bad, and stay with us. My family doesn’t support me, but they expect me to support them always❤️

[Poodie]

Hi shecan.

Because at a time when we are meant to have caregivers who love and value us and have our well-being foremost, we instead encounter people who totally take advantage of our helplessness and vulnerability. We have the abuse to deal with and we are robbed of a childhood and a normal environment in which to grow. We learn people who were suppose to love us have used us. We are left not being able to trust. Sometimes we seek out similar people because that is all we know which serves to cause more trauma. Since this sex is abuse and does not come from love, our sexuality is affected.

I could go on but let’s just acknowledge that is a tremendous amount to get a handle on. We need to understand all of it. We need to catch up on all the growing we missed out on, work through the trauma, learn who to trust, and be able to move on.

There are many things in life that are difficult but everyone needs a firm base. Our base never was, so we need something or someone solid to grab onto. Oftentimes that takes a long time to find. Therapy can help.

It’s tough. But you grow skin all the time so accept your present skin, value yourself, have love and compassion for yourself as that child, be brave, hook on to truly good people, accept who you are, and keep growing. The abuse will always be part of you. It will always be there but understanding is the key to growth. And knowledge is power. It may take time, but you can find happiness in life.

Good luck and keep soldiering on! ❤️