Really struggling

Hi all. A few months ago everything seemed mostly ok. Then in the last couple of months, while trying to save our marriage (I didn't know there were problems prior to that) I've had to start taking antidepressants to get through each day, and in the last 10 days my wife has told me that she's leaving me and taking our children back to Finland where she grew up.

We're determined to make it as painless as possible for the children, and oddly are getting on okay most of the time. I know I can of course stop her taking them, but then she'd have to stay here, and that really isn't an option. That would be bad for the kids.

Oh and then the coronavirus thing!

I've been lucky that for the most part my life has been pretty ok. But right now I'm finding it incredibly hard getting through each day. Getting out of bed in the morning is a battle, and I feel like there's no light at the end of the tunnel.

Despair is the word that springs to mind, and this is all very un-me.

If I'm honest I'm not even 100% sure why I'm posting this. I suppose I'm just looking for a little support. These are difficult and quite terrifying times. Bleugh.

Sorry for venting. Now I'll decide whether to post this or delete it!

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Have you tried marriage therapy!

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Yes, but it's far beyond that.

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Gotcha. Then you do what you need to do to be happy. We get one go around here at life and it'll be tough for a while but you'll be relieved. I'm thinking of you in my 💓

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I just wanted to say I’m thinking about you. I’m proud of you for posting this. Sometimes we just need someone to listen. All the best ☺️

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Hi cara—

Well that is very tough to go through. I am sorry you are going through all this and glad you got on an antidepressant to help.

This is a very kind supportive community. I think there are other people trying to cope with the break up of a marriage on here.

I hope you will keep posting and use the site to vent or find support during this difficult time.

How old are your kids?

I will be thinking of you.