Feeling an episode coming on 😔

[1973m]

Had a panic attack whilst driving over to see a friend tonight.. I could feel it coming on .. I built it up in my own mind I thought they didn’t really want to see me because I hadn’t heard anything about times etc .. I know they’d of said if they didn’t want me over but the thing is their best mate died suddenly at the weekend snd I don’t know how to be or help .. it’s not about me I know that but god do I feel helpless!

So I’m building up scenarios in my head and bringing on palpitations and anxiety. I won’t see this person now again till Sunday and I know by then I’ll be in pieces!!

I’m currently live on my own after separating from my husband 8 months ago .. my kids are at uni and college.. and I’m currently on half term from work .. any advanced would be much appreciated. Thank you x

[Funkyfaerie]

Hi 1973,

I think we all build these scenarios up in our heads, before an event or something. Like we are not the right person, someone else could do a better job!

Thing is, like you said, they would have said if they didn't want you to go over. And as in a bad way that you are yourself, you just wanted to try and give your friend comfort. Good on you when you suffer so much yourself.

When you go again, just be there for them, you can't take their pain away afterthe loss of their friend, just let them talk.... Be some company.

It's so hard when we have our own anxiety and life to deal with. But I think it does us good and is a rewarding feeling for you as you have also, done some good for someone else in need.

Take care xx

[1973m in reply to Funkyfaerie]

That’s such a lovely reply.

I just so don’t want to say or do the wrong thing .. thank you xx