Horrible week

[chaitealatte]

I have had the most up and down week ever. Me and my boyfriend have been having problems. It took us breaking up for him to realize that he needed to change some things. After three days of not talking, he came to me to apologize and said that he would work on things because he loves me and wants to be with me. I gave it a chance and felt so overwhelmed emotionally and I broke down and told him that I did not know what I wanted. He is so supportive of my anxiety and depression and has always been there for me. He is the sweetest man ever and I am just sooooooo sensitive. Our problems are minimal but I blow things out of proportion so badly. He pushes me to be better but that becomes overwhelming and I end up feeling like a failure. I feel so bad that he has to walk on egg shells with me because I brake so easily.

[MrZee]

Wow... it sounds like your boyfriend truly cares about you. To have a partner that cares about your anxiety and depression, you’re very lucky indeed.

Hun, everyone is sensitive. Some show it more or less than others. So you’re definitely not alone.

Perhaps instead of feeling like a failure, you have the option of feeling like a success. Keep the communication lines open with your boyfriend. Tell him how you feel. Ask him to hold you. Cry in his arms. On top of that perhaps seek a therapist to help you with your self critical thoughts.

I get it... it’s very easy to beat up on ourselves. Yet it seems like you have so much growth opportunity here.

Best,

-MZ ❤️

[LadyZen]

Having come out of a 17 year toxic marriage, I tend to be a bit skeptical of certain key phrases when people describe their relationship, such as "It took us breaking up for him to realize that he needed to change some things." Just make sure you have friends and family and a support system apart from your boyfriend.

[ciley in reply to LadyZen]

how would you mske sure of that then? i have no friends here AND ITS NOT MY FAULT~

[LadyZen in reply to ciley]

I'm sorry. I'm not blaming you for anything. A couple of people on this thread mentioned seeking out a therapist. If you feel it's necessary, that's always a good place to start. I have my own anxiety issues, so if I'm coming across negative in anyway, I'll delete my posts. I'm very non-confrontational, even online. It's just not good for my nerves. I'm kind of shaky from your all caps.

[fauxartist]

Maybe your the one who needs to change from what you have said. I would look into getting some professional help. Sometimes people can project onto others what they feel they cannot come to terms with about themselves, which isn't fair, but it happens. It's obvious you care about this person, so I would think about working on what it is you need to do to help yourself. In the long run...this will help you and your relationship as you begin to understand why you feel the way you do.