Why does he hurt me?

[Bray1567]

I want to be loved and cherished by him so badly it hurts. I am laying next to him crying my eyes out because he doesn’t understand my love for him. It’s like he is growing apart from me. I’ve done so much to prove my love but for him it feels like it’s not enough. It hurts to feel unwanted or unappreciated. I moved to a different state and been here for 3 years and he’s all I know. I’m so afraid to lose him that I am losing myself.

[urbetterthanthem]

You cannot control other people only yourself so don't feel bad if he doesn't respond well to your efforts. It is not your fault. I hope that things will improve and i think it is admirable that you put so much effort into making things work. There are people here who care and also 7cups.com and warmline.org are two places I know of where people can chat in text or on phone with you so you don't feel as alone. I am rooting for you. You seem like a nice person.

[Bray1567 in reply to urbetterthanthem]

Idk anymore, I thought I was a nice person doing right by others but I’m constantly being hurt by the people I want to be loved and cared by

[urbetterthanthem in reply to Bray1567]

I have experienced something like that in my life and it is the worst! I think the people we love can hurt us the most. Did you ever confront him with your feelings or ask if you could go to a couples counseling session?

[Bray1567 in reply to urbetterthanthem]

I have but he said dealing with me is draining

[urbetterthanthem in reply to Bray1567]

there has got to be someone out here who has been through this same situation before..so you are still together and he wants to be with you but your level of enthusiasm and feelings in the relationship are different. So you are hoping he will come around and become more passionate about you?

[Bray1567 in reply to urbetterthanthem]

We are still together and I am hoping he will love me again. He says he does but his actions prove other wise

[Pri0606]

Heyy sweety.. see if he has not acknowledged ur love for such long time, wat makes u think he wil start now.. its his loss to loose such a wonderful soul.. do me a favour, find a therapist, heal urself , help urself..n im sure someone right for u is just around d corner.. trust..peace..

[Hidden]

This is why self love is so important, it has been 3 years how much longer will you wait, I don't know much about relationships but this cannot be love. It is not, time to put yourself first