Why does depression hurt so bad ?

Hi everyone! I’m new to this site! I’ve suffered from bad depression for most of my life! It gets really bad especially now ! I feel suffocated by it and it feels like it’s never going to end!

[LoveforAll41]

Hi Slipslidin, I am sorry that you are feeling overwhelmed at the moment. I am always amazed at people that have struggled for so long and keep on going. I have had it bad for almost 15 years now and that feels like a lifetime. I know that it comes and goes, but sometimes that is frustrating while knowing that it will probably get better I will probably have it rough again.

I think it hurts so bad because it is our thinking errors lying to us and making our reality one of suffering. I like "Get out of your mind and into your life" by Steven Hayes.

I admire your perseverance. What have you found helps you in the past?

[Hidden in reply to LoveforAll41]

Yes I know! It eventually subsides only to reappear again but with me, always have light depression along with anxiety and I can deal with that but it’s when it gets bad like now! thoughts I’ve been fighting to not go to get immediate help and have been on the phone trying to get counseling but that never worked in the past so I’m going to see how this goes for now! We can help each other as best as we can!

[gajh]

Welcome to the group. I am so glad you are here reaching out for support. Sometimes it helps a little just to know that you aren't alone. You are definitely not alone. You will be understood here. Take care. I care.

[Hidden in reply to gajh]

Thank you for that! Yea I really have been feeling alone! Feeling stuck in the dark cloud and like nothing is ever going change isn’t fun!

[gajh in reply to Hidden]

It does feel like the depression is never going to end. I know you are in a bad place right now. It isn't consistently bad. Not every day is as horrible. Some days are not quite so bad. Those days give us a tiny break, enough strength to keep going. I hope you get a day very soon that gives you even a little respite.

[Hidden in reply to gajh]

Thanks for sharing this! I appreciate it

[OtOFrance]

Hello Hidden and welcome on board !

Let me tell you a secret (please, do not repeat) ; We all, in this forum, in a way or an other, at a level or an other, feeling what you are feeling.

When it hurts you, it hurts us. When you are sad, we are sad. When you are happy, we are happy.

And, most important, we do this being and staying unknown to each other, fullfilled with respect, tolerance and love to each other.

You have reached the right place to feel comfortable, safe and try to share "solutions" to your problems with depression.

Drugs are a part of the solution, free humankind and free humanity and an other part, maybe it is the most important one, who knows ?

Anyway, my name is O - and will stay - and I live in France, I am 47 years old and have suffered depression since I was a young teenager, even if, at this age, it was more seen as a "teenager stuff" than a real state of being. This depression finds its roots in my life and my path, as everyone's !

Please feel free to settle and discuss !

Love from France,

O

[Trainchaser]

I to have had depression for most of my life (10 years old). Nothing seems to be predictable with depression. I am doing ok and hopefully will continue to do so. Break your day down to hour incriminate that keeps me from being so overwhelmed