Why, why, why does this happen to me

[Singlemom6]

Hello i need someone anybody outhere to tell me this is happens to them too.im a single mom of 6.my family hates me for having so many kids.they dont talk to me.im alone all tbe time, just me and my kids.i have no friends and everyone i know is always having birthday parties and they dont invite me or my children.they would be so happy to go to a birthday party and play with the kids.my kids ask my why we didnt get invited and i always say idk.i have never disrespected anyone.i stay to myself all the time because everywhere i go people dont talk to me. My childrens happiness means so much to me. How can these people not invite me if they know i have little ones.i cant make someone anybody do something they dont want to do.but it hurts to see my kids being left out.nobody has jnvited us for a easter party or anything.like always i do everything alone with them.but theyre growing up and no matter what i do they look unhappy and start asking questions ss to why they didnt get invited to their grandmas house or their cousins birthday party. It hurts do much. Anhbody please tell me im not alone.

[Chicken21107343]

Hi single mum of 6. I hold my hat of to you, ive 5 my oldest being 27 to the youngest being 7 uve found it hard and lonely to the point i dont go out. I woundnt worry about your other family all that matters is you and the kids being fed watered and well looked after.

[Singlemom6 in reply to Chicken21107343]

Thanks for replying. I try my best. My kids are the world to me,.. i also try not to go out unless nesecsrry.

[Mena2603 in reply to Singlemom6]

I know how you feel I have a big family myself and we too do not get the invite to family parties etc. The best thing I did was start having our own B-Day parties we used to have one for the sun and the moon and the seasons lol sounds silly but the kids enjoyed this when they were small. We would just buy decorations at the dollar store and make a cake. I also would get children's books at the library about the sun and moon and read to them if they had a good movie we'd get that too. I encourage you to get creative and have fun with this you can do anything you want and they will love it. Good luck mom! Remember we are here for you

[Singlemom6 in reply to Mena2603]

Thanks for replying. I did my own easter egg hunt and ordered pizza. Then we watched movies until our eyes couldnt take it no more. Thanks for the advice

[Mena2603 in reply to Singlemom6]

That's awesome I bet they loved it! Happy to help and remember this is what they will remember as they get older is you turning things positive for them and making simple things so much fun for them❤

[Starrlight in reply to Singlemom6]

Your best is more than enough.

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Anyone who's not including your 6 children are missing out on 6 beautiful souls, these people may live to regret the decisions they make, your children won't always be small, one day they will be adults and they will see who has been in their lives and who hasn't, you have your family right there in your home, 6 little people and you, you are blessed, enjoy each others company and laughter, you have each other and that's what really matters, let everyone else live with the regrets that will surely come to them in the future xxxxx

[gogogirl]

Unbelievable- I have never heard of that. Sounds like your "family" does not deserve that title. Be proud that you take care of your kids.

[ShellW18]

Hi, I am a single mum of 1. We don't get invited anywhere. My son is blind and can be disruptive at times and finds it difficult to socialise with other children. I believe this is one of the reasons why people don't bother with us. It's horrible and heart breaking. I don't understand how people can be so cruel to children x

[Singlemom6 in reply to ShellW18]

Yes its true people are s o cruel to children but especially to the adults. To the ones caring for the children. Im sure karma dont get the. Be patient, and kind. Sometimes being pleasant and nice to people makes them mad.

[Singlemom6]

Its real sad because without having any fault theyre being left out from so many moments in life. For ex. A childs birthday party, cske, food,games, candy and having fun. The worst part is when they start asking questions .

[bamagirl0994]

I know this problem doesn't help but SOMEBODY NEEDS TO JACKSLAP YOUR FAMILY UPSIDE THE HEAD but that wouldn't accomplish anything. Do you take your kids to church? Not meaning to preach or get all religious on you but with God on your side you can do anything pray every time your kids ask questions pray at night in the morning and usually church is the best place to start friendships and getting your kids active with the right kind of friends and activities. When they ask about grandma's and cousins to just tell them the truth " grandma just needs us to pray for her or your aunt or uncle needs us to pray for them and pray for them Karma is a -itch and doesn't forget anyone eventually they will get payed back because family who treats family like this isn't right as long as they are not paying your bills or supporting your kids ITS NON OF THEEIR BUSINESS HOW MANY KIDS YOU HAVE they need to grow up and stop judging and clean out their own skeletons before yours GOOD LUCK AND I WILL PRAY FOR YOU AND YOURCHILDREN AND YOUR FAMILY!!!

[quitter333]

Why do you care?

I stopped caring about people's approval rather quickly. I worked more and more dedicated, developed life goals.

You know ... once you start going YOUR way and, once you go all 100% towards your goal, you'll see - either you will find like-minded people, or old friends will run back because they'll suddenly feel like missing out on your success.

In short - stop caring about other people. If they dislike you for no apparent reason, you are actually having it better by not meeting them. You literally avoided meeting a bad person, enjoy it.

[CLB1125]

I have 3 grown children. We didn’t get invited to much family activities either. We didn’t have much money but we would get a sandwich or salad that they picked out at the grocery store then they were able to get a soda from the gas station. No big deal except to them. Every Sunday we did this and we either took them to a lake for a picnic or fishing. And now they are in their 40s when we get together they still talk about their picnics. Those are the things kids remember. They won’t think about the other stuff just the love they felt spending time together.