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Suggestion for my depression issue

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Hi, I'm new here.

I've experiencing anxiety and depression since my teenage years. I'm an introvert person and whenever I experience this, its difficult for me to express it to my family and I end up getting misunderstood and listen to harsh words. Since last year my social anxiety have increased a lot and now I don't go out anywhere, feel hopeless, loser, don't want to get out of bed, eating disorders etc. Also, I feel like my mind shuts down completely sometimes and I tend to forget easily, unable to concentrate and losing interest on anything and everything.

Don't feel like talking to anyone as well. Previously I ignored this but now I'm very much aware that I'm affected with depression. The sadness and emptiness don't seem to go away. Like being alone and isolating myself more.My parents are frustrated with me and most probably hate me more now. I feel like my life has stopped now, can't take hold of the time.

Really feel very clueless, demotivated and a failure. Anyone here could give me fruitful suggestions which can help me out.

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Hi ... I saw your post was from 2 minutes ago... Just wanted to acknowledge your message... since we both may be up early in the morning.

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shreya21 in reply to 3crazydogs

a very good morning to you. Hope your days goes well and in my country its evening time now.

As a parent I would imagine that your parents don’t hate you, frustrated maybe because they don’t know how to help.

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shreya21 in reply to 3crazydogs

They just look at my behaviour but really does not want to know what's triggering everything.

they just pass any kind of judgement on me which really hurts

Thank you for your kind response.

I'm dealing with social anxiety from a long time. My parents misunderstand me and think that I can't be friendly with people, too proud of myself , don't like meeting people, always be a loner , very ungrateful and careless etc.

I can't explain things to them because maybe I'm an introvert and im bad with explaining.

I feel like a fear kicks me inside whenever Ive to attend a gathering or something like that and don't feel like going there.

its has been hard for me always and it feel worse every time.

Good evening to you! I’m sorry to hear that... that is so hard. I understand the situation. I had an exchange student live with us for a year and I think I misunderstood her. How would you like your parents to respond?

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shreya21 in reply to 3crazydogs

I want to tell them everything but I know they won't understand the gravity of the situation since most of the people aren't aware of things like depression.

They won't definitely understand this im sure

I really don't have an exact reason regarding the fear. I feel like people will judge me a lot and most of the time since my teenage days, I've been judged for my weight and how fat I am. My parents and of course other people outside have always commented and made fun on my weight that always lowered by self esteem and confidence and made me more depressed.

So , every time I go out it bugs me a lot how I look overall . Apart from that , I just have a feeling like not going out and my mind shuts down suddenly.

I know how you feel. I had a hard time telling my husband how I feel cause he’d say things like you need to get over it or pull yourself together, but I know his response was because he didn’t understand. I have since asked him to just listen to me... I don’t need answers (yet) I just need to share what’s going on in my mind. I don’t tell him everything. And when I talk I end up crying but I ask him to ignore the crying and just listen to my words. It does help to get some of it off my chest.

I have worked out and lost weight in the past two years . it did feel better but suddenly everything has become stagnant . feel like don't have the energy for working out, weight isn't reducing anymore, the more I feel depressed I tend to eat junk often.

I feel like everything is out of my control especially my mind .

Going to sign off .... falling asleep. But I truly think if you let your parents know how much you’re hurting they will help you to get help.

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shreya21 in reply to 3crazydogs

Have a good sleep. I'll give a thought about that

Hello, I had really bad social anxiety, until the end of my teens. I would not speak if there were people in the room who I did not know very very well! I gradually got better in my 20s but then it kind of went away, IDK why. No I talk to cashiers, everybody. My daughter asks me to stop,lol. I'm in my 60s now. I do know that SSRIs help some people. As far as feeling judged and not liked, that is part of depression too. I was very depressed last month and did not want to talk to anyone, as I felt just like you do. I went to my GP and he put me on Wellbutrin. It made a huge difference, and I stopped feeling like such a failure, because, I'm not! People didn't judge me. It was all the depression talking, and skewing my interpretation of things. I wish you well and am thinking of you. I know how painful (even physically) depression can be

refraining from eating junk is really hard when I'm really depressed. I get a bad feeling if I don't give in and the mind goes haywire.

Regarding, the daily walk the only possible option is early morning walk because after that roads become really very busy. But since I struggle to get out of my bed due to depression I've become a late riser and my parents hate that. I've been trying but really failing at it

Thank you for your kind response.

can you explain what's Wellbutrin?

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hypercat54 in reply to shreya21

Its an anti-depressant. There are many others though that doctors use, so can you visit one? I don't know what country you are in but hopefully you have access to a doctor. If you are 16 or older it should be confidential. Are you?

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shreya21 in reply to hypercat54

I'm 21 years old from India. I can consult a therapist for my self but the money thing is a bit issue. My parents will get to know and it won't remain confidential

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hypercat54 in reply to shreya21

What, even as an adult your parents would be informed? That's ridiculous!

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shreya21 in reply to hypercat54

No, not like that. Since I don't do a job im financially dependent on my parents so if I consult a therapist then I've to pay his/her fees and for that I've to ask money from them so obviously even if I lie they will know

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hypercat54 in reply to shreya21

Can you get a job?

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shreya21 in reply to hypercat54

Right now, I feel mentally prevented by depression and anxiety to move forward in life.

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hypercat54 in reply to shreya21

Well you either need to get the money from your parents or find someone else to get it from.

If you can't there is lots online self help available especially on YouTube. x

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ovilia in reply to shreya21

It is a medication for depression, but not an SSRI like Prozac.

I've tried going to bed early and getting up early but it didn't work.

I wish I became invisible and not a pain for my family. a burden for them. I want to go away from everyone and live my life in whatever way I can. I just don't want to burden anyone anymore.

my parents think I'm being selfish and self centered person who doesn't care for their reputation or feelings

I wish I get to live the way I want.

I want to find a job but I always have a constant thought that I'll fail to find a job .

I feel like a total loser

This depression is constantly preventing me from doing anything. My mind literally stops working . It has became so bad that at times I feel mentally paralysed.

Do you have a solution to this?

I'm a blogger and have been blogging since 2018. You know whenever I lost my interest on doing something, Blogging is the only thing that I love doing whatever may happen.

Sadly to my surprise I'm noticing a disinterest in blogging as well along with every other activity. I feel so dead from inside that whenever I walk, talk, eat or do anything I feel like a machine

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